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are some people just naturally Happy??
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i have noticed alot of ppl ive met are just very energetic, bubblely, full of positives and very happy. Are these just naturally happy? is it because they havent had anything bad or sad happened to them or do they have a special way of coping and dealing with it? are you one of these?? if so can u help me?? lol
there are types where they try too hard to be happy, they then reach to the point they cant anymore and breaks down-- thats me sometimes
and there are types like me where i pretend to be happy (lots of pretend smiles n messing about) when i am around a group of friends/ colleages/ families? but when im on my own im the real me.. unhappy person,
lots of unhappy things had and is happening to me, im reaching to the point i cant cope with it anymore.
im full of negative thoughts --ppl do actally noticed it and had mentioned it to me that i need to think positive and stop being soo negative about me and my life. but i cant help it most of the time. how can i switch the way i think?
what is the point of thinking positive where i know there is no chance of it going to happen...?
*sighs* i try to be posistive but i hate being let down or being rejected, so if i think negative then it just make me feel much better because 95% of the time im right.
if i think possitive about something then someone or something rejcts or let me down.. that would hurt me even more.
So if u are naturally happy or just Happy Happy full of positive person..... can u tell me how u do it? thanks :-)
ixxxxxxx
there are types where they try too hard to be happy, they then reach to the point they cant anymore and breaks down-- thats me sometimes
and there are types like me where i pretend to be happy (lots of pretend smiles n messing about) when i am around a group of friends/ colleages/ families? but when im on my own im the real me.. unhappy person,
lots of unhappy things had and is happening to me, im reaching to the point i cant cope with it anymore.
im full of negative thoughts --ppl do actally noticed it and had mentioned it to me that i need to think positive and stop being soo negative about me and my life. but i cant help it most of the time. how can i switch the way i think?
what is the point of thinking positive where i know there is no chance of it going to happen...?
*sighs* i try to be posistive but i hate being let down or being rejected, so if i think negative then it just make me feel much better because 95% of the time im right.
if i think possitive about something then someone or something rejcts or let me down.. that would hurt me even more.
So if u are naturally happy or just Happy Happy full of positive person..... can u tell me how u do it? thanks :-)
ixxxxxxx
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i am often happy but i think its a state of mind sure there are the days things get to me i guess i just tell myself there is no point getting stressed by the things i cant change or control as it only wastes negative energy so i focus on what i can do and on how i choose to respond. Thats not easy but if yu keep telling yourself negative things in your mind it is bound to get you down .Try telling yourself all the good things that happened focus on what you can do not on what you cant,Surround yourself with positive experiences be good to yourself, burn some lavender play upbeat music. Although it may sound hard you are in charge of how you choose to feel no point worrying about the past its over all you can do is learn for your present and fuure. have heard a great saying that the present is the gift that you give to yourself. so try focusing on today yeaterday is gone and tomorrow hasnt happened yet.Dont miss out on the opportunities each new day brings
Hey WB - how you doing?
I'm naturally happy and outgoing, but like everyone else, we all have times in our daily lives when things go wrong, or aren't right. I tend to shrug them off. Moping doesn't help, and I think about people who've got a lot more than myself to contend with, so it puts things in perspective. xx
I'm naturally happy and outgoing, but like everyone else, we all have times in our daily lives when things go wrong, or aren't right. I tend to shrug them off. Moping doesn't help, and I think about people who've got a lot more than myself to contend with, so it puts things in perspective. xx
I can close my doors, stay in bed, ignore responsibilities and be of little use to others, then get depressed with myself.
I feel happy because I lived thru today.....have lost too many close to me recently and I live to keep their memories alive. My life is for others and am happy working for those who need me......it's nice to be needed and valued. I need to work harder now than I ever did when younger to fulfil myself. I ignore my aches & pains to strive to my goals.
You to are needed by those around you. Tomorrow is new day for you, see what new things you learn, people you meet, things you do and be glad of the pleasure of living another day, remember, some others wont!
I feel happy because I lived thru today.....have lost too many close to me recently and I live to keep their memories alive. My life is for others and am happy working for those who need me......it's nice to be needed and valued. I need to work harder now than I ever did when younger to fulfil myself. I ignore my aches & pains to strive to my goals.
You to are needed by those around you. Tomorrow is new day for you, see what new things you learn, people you meet, things you do and be glad of the pleasure of living another day, remember, some others wont!
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I know what you mean Whitebear. It's getting to the point, where I can't even be bothered to pretend.
Yesterday at work, we had some woman who works in the Fitness Industry come in to run a workshop. She was so passionate about her job and really dynamic. She runs Marathons, does Triathalons, writes articles for the press and is hoping to start working with an international Rugby team as a Fitness consultant. She really irritated me actually.
I've never really been passionate about anything and rarely am I interested in anything, most things and people bore or irritate me. Whilst many people have had some kind of difficulty in their life, they tend to overcome them. I've had my fair share of problems in the past, but at present, I shouldn't feel unhappy or dissatisfied, as my life is pretty good.
I have a loving partner and I only need work partime. I've been reasonably successful in my chosen career paths, I live in a nice house and don't really want for anything, but still spend most of the time feeling totally p issed off. I dislike most people I encounter and I encounter many, as I work in an industry, where I have to interact all the time. I actually hate having to waste my time and effort on these people.
Even my friends, I can take them in very small doses, as they irritate me, harping on about their crap relationships, constantly bleating on about themselves and never really asking or caring how I am.
Anyway, now I've ranted and raved. Perhaps you feel unhappy because you can see things and people for what they really are, mostly selfish, uncaring and self centred. Or perhaps you are just a naturally very sensitive person, so take things to heart more deeply than others might.
I'm not sure how you can handle this, except trying not to surround yourself with people who will let you down. Perhaps you could benefit from counselling, which could help to release any pent
Yesterday at work, we had some woman who works in the Fitness Industry come in to run a workshop. She was so passionate about her job and really dynamic. She runs Marathons, does Triathalons, writes articles for the press and is hoping to start working with an international Rugby team as a Fitness consultant. She really irritated me actually.
I've never really been passionate about anything and rarely am I interested in anything, most things and people bore or irritate me. Whilst many people have had some kind of difficulty in their life, they tend to overcome them. I've had my fair share of problems in the past, but at present, I shouldn't feel unhappy or dissatisfied, as my life is pretty good.
I have a loving partner and I only need work partime. I've been reasonably successful in my chosen career paths, I live in a nice house and don't really want for anything, but still spend most of the time feeling totally p issed off. I dislike most people I encounter and I encounter many, as I work in an industry, where I have to interact all the time. I actually hate having to waste my time and effort on these people.
Even my friends, I can take them in very small doses, as they irritate me, harping on about their crap relationships, constantly bleating on about themselves and never really asking or caring how I am.
Anyway, now I've ranted and raved. Perhaps you feel unhappy because you can see things and people for what they really are, mostly selfish, uncaring and self centred. Or perhaps you are just a naturally very sensitive person, so take things to heart more deeply than others might.
I'm not sure how you can handle this, except trying not to surround yourself with people who will let you down. Perhaps you could benefit from counselling, which could help to release any pent
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I am and have always been described as happy go lucky, I rarely if ever feel down, Of course there are always bad things to deal with but I dont ever feel miserable about it, I just get on with it and whatever the situation I always focus on the positives.
If people are moody or nasty to me I always assume its their problem, not mine so I barely give it a thought.
If people are moody or nasty to me I always assume its their problem, not mine so I barely give it a thought.
Hi WhiteBear it would seem to me that you should talk to someone about how you are feeling as you shouldn't have to put on an act to be happy. I think that you are exhibiting signs of (mild) depression and there is a lot of help that you can get to deal with it. (This is only my opinion and you may want to speak to your doctor).
With regards to 'happy people', I work with a girl who is THE happiest bounciest person alive! She is so enthusiastic about everyone and everything and it is just how she is. Shes adorable.
With regards to 'happy people', I work with a girl who is THE happiest bounciest person alive! She is so enthusiastic about everyone and everything and it is just how she is. Shes adorable.
hello all, Thnks for all your advices, response and experiences!
pinktwink:
i really like the way you think,
you are right, i should focus on things i can do and not what i cant. but it can be really hard sometimes. but being around positive people does help me especially at work. the guys i talk to are full of positives and very energetic. but when i hear the things they do etc... i just... think.. how do they do it? why cant i be like them! then when im at home i just switch off and back to my negative thinking.
Icey: hey icey im ok thnks (spent the weekend with my baby nephew aww hes soo sweet). i wish i was you, you are always full of positive energy/thinking etc and seem to be always happy. its true dwelling on the past or when ever bad things happens doesnt help. best to shrug it off.
terambulan:
i feel good about myself when i help people. i enjoy helping people. but feels let down when no one seems to want to help me. mayb because i just keep it to myself and not saying a thing so how do they know i need help? others speak out and i just help them striaght away without giving any thoughts. but sometimes i feel im just there to help ppl. all i want is to feel wanted and appricated what i do. but most of the time i dont get this. i make ppl happy, but i dont see anyone making me happy, they just assume im natuarally happy/smiley person. they dont see the real me.
pinktwink:
i really like the way you think,
you are right, i should focus on things i can do and not what i cant. but it can be really hard sometimes. but being around positive people does help me especially at work. the guys i talk to are full of positives and very energetic. but when i hear the things they do etc... i just... think.. how do they do it? why cant i be like them! then when im at home i just switch off and back to my negative thinking.
Icey: hey icey im ok thnks (spent the weekend with my baby nephew aww hes soo sweet). i wish i was you, you are always full of positive energy/thinking etc and seem to be always happy. its true dwelling on the past or when ever bad things happens doesnt help. best to shrug it off.
terambulan:
i feel good about myself when i help people. i enjoy helping people. but feels let down when no one seems to want to help me. mayb because i just keep it to myself and not saying a thing so how do they know i need help? others speak out and i just help them striaght away without giving any thoughts. but sometimes i feel im just there to help ppl. all i want is to feel wanted and appricated what i do. but most of the time i dont get this. i make ppl happy, but i dont see anyone making me happy, they just assume im natuarally happy/smiley person. they dont see the real me.
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i do need ppl around me, but when they are around me, they are their for different reasons, like if they feeling down they come to me. but when i feel down they always find exscues that they r too busy....
i guess tomorrowis a new day. and just focus on moving on than taking steps back.
valvetee:
sometimes i find it easy to pretend. but there are times i just b really quiet and not saying a word until someone say something to me. then again im not a natural talker.
i can understand why that woman irritate you. i bet u think that would really annoy me too!
although i am interested in alot of things. but sometimes i just cant b bothered because im so focused on things that making me feel down. also if i dont have anyone to share my interest with then i wont enjoy it as much. because having a company helps to share the thirll of things that you do. but if u have done it yourself u have no one to share it with and its just a waste of energy and time. i think whats the point? then im back to square one again.. back to my negative side.
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i do need ppl around me, but when they are around me, they are their for different reasons, like if they feeling down they come to me. but when i feel down they always find exscues that they r too busy....
i guess tomorrowis a new day. and just focus on moving on than taking steps back.
valvetee:
sometimes i find it easy to pretend. but there are times i just b really quiet and not saying a word until someone say something to me. then again im not a natural talker.
i can understand why that woman irritate you. i bet u think that would really annoy me too!
although i am interested in alot of things. but sometimes i just cant b bothered because im so focused on things that making me feel down. also if i dont have anyone to share my interest with then i wont enjoy it as much. because having a company helps to share the thirll of things that you do. but if u have done it yourself u have no one to share it with and its just a waste of energy and time. i think whats the point? then im back to square one again.. back to my negative side.
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you are right there, my mates only come to me when they have no one else to turn to etc. and they know that i will always be there for them. when it comes the other way round.. they dont wanna knw. when we meet up.. they are always on about their lives etc.... but dont ask anything about me.. .. but im used to it.
sometimes when i see and talk to the same ppl everyday (ie at work) that really irritates me, they talk about the same thing again and again... it annoys me too when they take the 'p' out of their partners or some are actually cheating on them. when i hear too much of ppl suscess and happiness. it gets me down because i know i cant compete with them and they deserved to be happy not me.
cazzz:
can i be you? :) xxx
hays:
i do infact suffer from depression over 15yrs its probably why im always misserable and pretending to be happy. i only do it because i just want to block it out and denying that im down.
i let it out when im on my own thu.
doglady:
i am still finding positive things in my life :(
gucciman:
thanks for agreeing with me :) xx
thnks all xxxxx
you are right there, my mates only come to me when they have no one else to turn to etc. and they know that i will always be there for them. when it comes the other way round.. they dont wanna knw. when we meet up.. they are always on about their lives etc.... but dont ask anything about me.. .. but im used to it.
sometimes when i see and talk to the same ppl everyday (ie at work) that really irritates me, they talk about the same thing again and again... it annoys me too when they take the 'p' out of their partners or some are actually cheating on them. when i hear too much of ppl suscess and happiness. it gets me down because i know i cant compete with them and they deserved to be happy not me.
cazzz:
can i be you? :) xxx
hays:
i do infact suffer from depression over 15yrs its probably why im always misserable and pretending to be happy. i only do it because i just want to block it out and denying that im down.
i let it out when im on my own thu.
doglady:
i am still finding positive things in my life :(
gucciman:
thanks for agreeing with me :) xx
thnks all xxxxx
Maybe some people just naturally Happy, We don't develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.
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Yeah, happiness is actually a choice, and when you begin to be so you will start finding the magic of happiness. We should always be happy, no matter how tough the situation is. It is possible to find happiness in every situation. We should be thankful to god, that nothing more happened, at times of worries or pain. And that is how we can carry on our life forward.
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