Leaving someone behind...

[lovefoolb4u]

Has anyone ever really really liked someone (verging on love, but not in a relationship with them, just know them really well), then had to move away from them? And just before you moved away, did you start to feel like you would never meet anyone you would ever want as much as you want them?

I'm starting to feel like that. I feel like I'll never find someone I'm so attracted to. Then I tell myself, "you're so young, you have your whole life ahead of you and you'll meet so many other people you are crazy about", but most of the time I feel like I'll never find love.

Any success stories?

[ll_billym]

I could give you a few examples that I know about and one that is specific to me all telling you noe to worry but I'll answer the question in my own way...

If you were going to fall in love with this person and have that type of relationship you would have done this whether you were moving away or not, there is a reason why you didn't do this even if you cannot put your finger on it.

I have been in "proper" relationships with a few people and when it ended for one reason or another and I was lonely I thought "I should have made a proper go of it with XXX" but that is really only the lonliness talking because you finished for a reason and that reason is still valid.

Now I am with a lovely person and had I not held out I would never have found them so those lonely times were all worth it, especially when I see people I know who, in mine and sometimes their opinion, just made do with what they have.

You will find someone who means the world to you, I truly believe that there isn't just "a person for everyone" but there are many people for everyone provided you don't just "make do" and stay with someone because it's easy or, like you want to do, get with someone because you feel you won't find better.

You will find the person you truly love with no misgivings and don't settle for less.

Billy.

[lovefoolb4u]

Thank you so so much! That completely changed my outlook on the situation.

[terambulan]

You can always keep in touch with a postcard or such.....see where it goes. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, this maybe the case?

Be happy x

[Scarlett]

If you had a relationship with this person at ayoung age, the chances are you would break up and that would spoil your friendship and you know how hard it is to go back to being friends afterwards!

Be glad you have such a good pal that you adore. Keep him/her as a friend and you will have them as a friend for life. As you get older most of your friends will move away, work abroad etc and you will have to keep in contact through xmas cards, internet etc and meet up as and when you can. I adored this man from my work and saw him every day for 5 years. Then he got another job. I haven't seen him for yonks, but I am still really glad to have him as a friend - life goes on and gets in the way, but your friendship should last forever.