Neighbour babysitting service/

[Roughquest]

My new neighbour who is a single parent keeps asking me and my partner to babysit at the drop of a hat. I think this is wrong and my partner sees its ok.
He leaves us with no contact details, he doesnt know us that well, yet he sees it fit to 'pop out' after he has asked us to watch his kids for a while.
Is this right, i fallen out with my partner because of this.

[Sachs]

I wouldn't be comfortable with that Rough! Very odd!

[Ice.Maiden]

Neither would I. I think the sooner you lay the cards down, the better. Tell this person that you don't mind doing the job now and again, but that it can't be a regular thing.
Also point out that you must have a contact number, in case one of the children felt poorly, or needed him there. It's just a sensible precaution that most parents'd automatically do anyway.

[carron81]

goodness no. i dont even leave my wee one with her granny yet. i left her for 10 minutes with her aunt whilst i ran to the shops and i left a bottle and a few nappies just for that short time and i made sure she had my mobile number

how old is the child? not that, that really has anything to do with it. thats terrible just leaving the child with you im sure your fine people but you are really strangers to him

[kevo2k7]

Sounds like a careless bugga,his kids arent safe with him because as far as he knows you and your parner could be a pair a paedos (im sure your not like) but i would have to tell him that ya not there to babysit his children and if he cant afford to pay for proper babysitters then he should simply not go out,if he doesnt like this idea then he should give his children up to someone who will care for them properly!!

[Roughquest]

The neighbour has only just returned after saying he was only 'popping out' this was nearly 2 hours ago. I am disgusted with my partner for even agreeing to babysit! i for one would not leave my kids with some neighbour i have only known for a couple of months, its just totally unacceptable. I really am vezed because of this, my partner cannot understand my anguish. Not only has he reuined a relaxing evening for my partner and i but totally abused our goodwill, what if something had happened to his kids ??? He left us in care of 2 of his kids who are 2 AND 4 Y/O am i right to be reacting in this way ? I feel like reporting him to social services. I am so angry .

[ELVIS68]

I agre with kevo2k7 to some extent, he trusts you with his kids without knowing anything about you, and vice versa

As for paying for "proper babysitters"..what parent would leave their kids with strangers anyway regardless if they`ve been CRB checked?

[ELVIS68]

Too right you`re angry, how long have you known this "new neighbour"?

[Ice.Maiden]

Ah - I see the point that everyone else is making at the moment. I thought you'd perhaps got to know your new neighbour a little better RQ.
I agree with carron as well. We never left our boys when they were very young, and the first time we did, it was with relatives.

[Roughquest]

I totally agree Ice Maiden, I for one am so angry that our new neighbour left me and my partner to babysit and not only that he has taken it for granted and instead of it being for just 10 minutes its beein over 2 hours! My partner says im overreacting but if something happened to the kids in our care then all sorts of things would happen ! Why cant anyone see the serious side of this apart from me ?? I just cant believe some people take leaving care of their children so lightly ! I am so upset by this, my partner is in bed as we have has a major bust up over this. He says Im being inconsiderate etc...

[Sachs]

Talk to him tomorrow Rough, your both tired & that wont help. I think you are in the right by the way, night xxx

[Ice.Maiden]

Don't fall out with your partner just because of your inconsiderate and somewhat "lax" neighbour. This is the perfect excuse for not ever doing the job again - plus - the children won't want to hear any arguments.

I hope the neighbour's back by now, but you have all the afore-said reasons for telling him that it's not on.

[Roughquest]

I have known our new neighbour for only 2 months and we are only just on speaking terms. i did tell my partner NOt to have anything to do with looking after his kids but he totally has undermind my concerns and gone ahead with it and now is totally peed off with the time our neightbour has ******** off abusing our trust in looking after his kids. WHY??

[ELVIS68]

Next time he asks, say no

If your partner insists then he`s very naive

[Ice.Maiden]

Say it won't hapen again - as soon as possible. is this the first time that the man hasn't kept to a time?

[gelda]

Every time this person leaves the children with you, you go out and leave them with your partner if he's so keen to have them, he'll soon get fed up with it!