flirty friend

[unhappychick]

I just want to know what other people make of this....I have a friend, who is attractive but I think insecure...when she met my last fella she went from being normal chatty and having a laugh to standing there kidding herself and pouting as she spoke...my fella took no notice so she went back to normal again.....However when she saw a pic of my new man, she made it clear that she thought he was very good looking and to be honest she annoyed me a bit by her reaction to seeing his pic, I would say it was a bit over the top, they havent met as of yet, she emailed me the other day and said she thought she saw him on the train on the way home from work, now bearing in mind that she has never met him just seen a pic on facebook, I was suprised that she noticed him, she said next time she sees him shes going to say hi....now she normally goes to work dressed casually with no make up, she emailed me today to say she decided to do herself up and wore a dress and hold ups, heels...I think she has done it in the hope that she bumps into my fella again, as she seeks attention from men big time...her relationship is in a mess and mine is going well....I feel irritated by her as I would never flirt round any of my friends fellas, do you think im over reacting?

[yummymum]

i dont think u are totally over reacting but try not to take everything she does and says as proof that she is after your man, if she is after him then she will be found out soon enough, if your fella doesnt take her up on any advances then you have a good guy but a bad mate so least you will know where you stand, if he does then you better off with out them both. Just see what happens it maybe that she just unhappy and is a bit jealous cos u have it good, have you tried talking to her?

[pastafreak]

Hummppfft!! Scarlett!!....a virgo would NEVER stoop so low...no matter how insecure, we DO have our pride-lol

This girl sounds extremely insecure....and she needs to feel empowered by going after someone else's bloke. She may not realise just what she is doing. If I were you,and you still value her as a friend, I would be direct and ask her outright. You have nothing to lose if she IS doing it deliberately...and if not-then you may be helping her to deal with what could be a major problem for her if left unchecked.

[Ice.Maiden]

Uhchick - hi hun. She doesn't sound like good friend material if she's liable to make a play for your new man, but there are a lot of females like that out there, so you can't wrap him in cotton wool.
If the guy responds, and over-does it, then I don't think he's the one for you anyway, but otherwise, just laugh it off.
Your own insecurities are getting the better of you, and if you can't keep these in check, then you'll feel threatened by ANY female who flirts round him. Perhaps it'd be best to try and steer him out of her way, or shrug and see how things go. x

[joko]

i have a pal - whop constantly accused me of fancying her fella... i don't in the slightest... and actually i dont like him much friendwise either... but its HER paranoia in that she sees something in everything i say... she goes off a twists it into some big issue... despite knowing i am totally into his mate... she still thinks i secretly have a crush...
she filters out context you see - for instance - i had looked at his myspace page... no bad thing - thats what they are for... but to her it was proof i fancied him. - why else would i search for him online.... and i got accused... now add the context... i was actually looking at the guy i likes site, because he'd given me the address... his top friend happens to be her boyf... so while sitting around at home doing not much else... i clicked on it.....

we were in a club and he went to the loo, a few minutes later i decided to go too... she accused me of going to meet him in the toilets...

i cannot analyse everything i do...just in case she misreads it...

so you see i would say just be careful that you are not imagining things just because you are suspicious - it is very easy to do and understandable

[unhappychick]

Thank you all so much for taking the time to answer my question....I knew right from the start that she took a shine to him, and after me sending her that email saying, why did you wear a dress in this weather and hold ups too...hmm your not trying to get someones attention are you?!!! Normally she would have acknowledged what I had said, but she didnt, she just sent a reply back going on about how sad she is feeling about things...that alone told me a lot...I know her very well, and no whats what.

I have come to the decision that I dont want to be friends with someone who is clearly interested in my man..I have morals and would never do such a thing, the fact that she wants to use me and my relationship to boost her own ego through her insecurities is pretty sad to me, and disrespectful to say the least! I thought I meant more to her than that, and am upset by her behaviour now and by the way she has been in the past....its like she wants to grab the attention from me, not that she has ever got it...and I just dont know why? Why select her so called best friends bloke and my ex too, couldnt she choose someone else...no, it always has to be to do with me!

To the last reply, no not blowing anything out of proportion here, she has done it before, and its not my imagination, even friends have noticed...

Thanks again for all your replies x

[Scarlett]

Could you just tell me her star sign to put me out of my misery??!

[unhappychick]

Lol...Capricorn!

[Scarlett]

Like me!! Aaargggh!! hahaha!!

[Ice.Maiden]

LOL!!! Me too, and I'd never do that with anyone's else's partner!