Friends

[eash]

why is it that when my friends fall in love/get a partner they forget all about single me?

[Scarlett]

Don't get me started on this...!!! They will come running back when they split up!! But seriously, as a serial singleton, I manage to keep up with my married mates by becoming friends with the COUPLE, not just the friend. Then you can encourage your friend to come out with you occasionally. But it probably won't be clubbing. I do sympathise. It's hard to meet single people when you are a single person yourself, with no-one to go out with.x

[evolution]

I have been with my partner since I was 16 and at first I have to admit, there didn't seem to be anyone in the world but him!As selfish as it may seem the honeymoon stage is called that for a reason - you don't want to be with anyone else in the world and it seems as if your new partner can fulfill all your needs. If they last the time they will eveentually realise that friendship is really important aswell. Though, yes, perhaps without the clubbing part! And as Scarlett says it would be good to make the effort to get to know the new partner.

[bobtheduck]

because people are incredibly selfish

[el duerino]

well I have been going out with my gf for 6 years now, we too had a stage where we never saw our friends - now we are both much more relaxed, we both still have real friends. I have also seen the single people come and go as and when they get romantically attached. Quite amusing really.

[Shellywba]

Because people think all they need is their partner - but it isn't true. If you just see your boyfriend or girlfriend all the time, and don't see your friends, you will lead a boring life. I try to see all my friends, even though most of us have boyfriends. Get some better mates that treat you properly.

[MuppetBabies]

Cos people can be worms. I don't necessarily buy this 'make friends with the partner' thing. Really, you should be someone's friend just because you are their friend, no other reason should be neccesary. Not that I am advocating all-out hostility. Do your friends disappear just for the honeymoon stage, then come back? If they do, then I think you may have to cut them a little slack, I'm afraid. But if they disappear for good, with the definition of meeting up being a night out with their partner, then you may well need some new friends, as suggested above. Some people have to totally skewed visions of life and think they have made it because they have found a partner, and state 'I still see my friends' like they expect applause for it. Friends are essential, not some side-dish - if your friends don't feel the same, make some new ones, because you deserve better.

[shinyhappy]

haha sounds horribly familiar. never mind - just think about when its ur turn 2 find sum1, half of 'em will be back to being single! Although that may sound rather bitter, it's true. we all do it, and none of us can help it. cxx