Feeling a bit down and sorry for myself

[eash]

I know I should be happy for my friends but it just feels like they are rubbing salt in the wound when they constantly go on about how much in love they are, how good their job is and how much money they earn and the latest extragavant thing they've just bought.

I realise there are worse things going on in the world and I'm just being petty and pathetic and acting like a selfish jealous so and so but I am just not happy at the mo and feel like no cares about me or considers me or my feelings about things.

I know my time will come for my perfect career and to fall and be in love but right now everything just seems to suck.

Can anyone shed some light at the end of the tunnel or kind words of wisdom? Thanks

[MrBounty]

Sorry, but the light went out a long time ago.....

[ummmm]

I personally do not talk about love, money or whatever unless asked. Except on here of course but that doesn't count.

Saying that, I would never discuss money even when I had loads of it.

I happily tell my mates what makes me jealous. A friend of mine used to be jetting everywhere and seemed to have a great life. Well he did have a great life but when I said it to him he said that he'd swap it for mine as I have kids and he doesn't. So.....you never know how people really feel.

[Sasha-2008]

Hey your not alone, we all feel low from time to time.

Good things come to those who wait, if you stop looking for love, love will eventually find you.

At times I feel so happy, and other times I feel low. I just put it doen to being a woman. lol

chin up. xx

[garner]

Think on it this way eash..there are alot of people in the cemetery who would swop places with you.Look on the bright side there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

[Ice.Maiden]

You know hun, it's great for anyone who has the things which you're envious of, but no amount of money - or even being totally in love - can stop us from feeling low at times. It's called being a human being.
I always think that it's best to set yourself goals and go out and find what life has to offer, rather than to sit and be miserable, somehow expecting these things to fall into our laps. Be pleased for your friends who seem to "have it all", and by trying to free yourself of these unhappy feelings, people'll be more inclined to listen to you and to want to cheer you up. Best of luck. x

[Lakitu]

Aww each, you're definately not alone.

I agree with Icey, try to set yourself goals and in the meantime, relax, enjoy your life and try not to dwell on what you don't have, but be thankful for what you do.

xxx

[eash]

Thanks everyone. I haven't felt this low in a long time and can't even blame hormones as it's not even that time of the month.
I'm going to try and be positive and look on the bright side of life.
Thanks again.

[Lakitu]

It could be a combination of the dark morning and evenings along with the January blues xx

[eash]

Yes Lakitu I think you might be right, just a bad case of January blues.

[Sachs]

Go and treat yourself. Not sure if you're male or female? Go and have a massage/ haircut/ go to the cinema/ bookshop. Warmer & brighter days are coming! xxx

[eash]

Thanks Sachs, I might just go and do that.
BTW I am female.

[brenda]

Are these people really your friends. They sound pretty shallow to me, what boring lives they lead., always bragging.

You are probably worth more as a person than all of them put together, so try and think a little more positively about yourself.

Set small goals for your self as mentioned, do good things for others and love will come to you.
Try hard to keep smiling, even though it is hard sometimes.
Good luck.

[eash]

I've been asking myself that same question brenda. Thank you for your kind words and advice. That goes for everyone else too.

[joko]

Are they bragging though?
or just chit-chatting and you are being over-sensitive to it?
its not really fair to expect them to edit their general conversation just because you may be feeling blue.

obviously in certain circumstances you could expect that...such as if someone had just a miscarriage you would expect people not to talk about their pregnancy at the time... but general stuff - its their lives, its what is going on for them, its important to them...why expect them to tread on eggshells?

besides, do you really want your pals to pussyfoot around you, stilting their conversations, waiting until you leave so they can speak freely...?
worse still they could stop inviting you round if they feel you resent their good fortune...

whatever good fortune someone may have, someone else will not be as lucky - so you can't worry about every single person just in case they haven't got something too...

try not to see it as 'rubbing salt in' or 'braggin' or one-up-manship' or anything...and just as your pals going about their lives and counting their blessings...

it is unlikely they are not doing it to rub your nose in it...why would they??

in fact, more people should count their blessings!

[Ian1]

Remember what Holly Hobbie said......."The time to be happy is now"

[kitesurfer]

if its any consolation I hate my job i am living in a foreign country with no friends and i just found out my girl friend lied to me a lot about her past.

[smudge]

Sorry to hear you've been feeling down eash & hope you'll be feeling much better soon.

We all feel like you do from time to time, but it will pass, 'specially when spring's on its way. -xx-

I have a Holly Hobbie plate with those words on Ian. Every time I look at it, it makes me smile. ;o}

[bronnie-d]

Yeah, you're deffinitly not alone on this one,

but i can shead some light on it :) or well my friend can:)

i told him how i was feeling (my friedn is him hehe) and he told me that he has gone through this himself,

and even though it took a while these feelings wore off and now he is happier than ever !:)

i think whats important is that instead of taking your friend luck as a blow you should use it to incourage yourself you know ?