Hi firewatch, she really is in the best place to be looked after, that is a positive thing, you really have got to try and look at the positives, in a day or so your cold will be better, can you go to visit her then?, it would be so good if you could manage to get to her at some time, I have no wise words to take away the pain you are feeling, all you can do is keep in touch with whoever is nearest to her untill you can get down to her, but, and I know it is hard, please try to be positive. really do hope all goes well, and remember to look after yourself, that is just as important, you making yourself ill with worry will only make you feel worse. Ray xx