sexual problem

[SCARFACE]

i'm 20 years old, i don't feel attracted to girls although i used to be back in high school. I used to flirt around with girls a lot. What may cause this?

[smudge]

You could just be going through a phase, or you could be gay. If this is worrying you, which it sunds like it is, the best person to discuss this with would be be your GP.

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*sounds

[Yinzer]

Maybe your hormones are just chilling out. I am 21 and even befor I met my husband I was the same with guys, it just takes some people a little more to take interest in someone. I am no lesbian, but generally had this "take it or leave it" attitude towards guys. You'll find a girl who will GRAB your attention (perhaps over a period of a few months) instead of you just giving it out on every street corner. My cousin is about the same age as me, and he just feels he can't be bothered. Girls are at the bottom of his priority list because he values his freedom and is more focused on his career. So with you it could be either of these things, or maybe you just don't get out enough to the right kinds of places. Don't sweat it.

[ICEMANSAV]

I agree with yinzer, everyone goes through a period where they cannot be bothered with the opposite sex. Mine was to concentrate on my job after a failed relationship, but when I wasn't actively looking for a girlfriend I found a perfect one when I went out! So maybe acting aloof could benefit you in this department!

[FP]

Perhaps you have become more discerning with 'old age'  You said yourself you used to flirt around a lot, so perhaps you realise now how boring this has become.  Perhaps you are looking for more in a girl now and have become fussier. 

 

Had a chat with my own son not so long ago and he is about your age.  He informs me that he cannot understand blokes who just fancy anyone and everyone, He says he has 'moved on' and that he needs to know someone's personality as well these days before he really feels attracted (although they have to be physically attractive to him as well!!) 

 

Yinzer's answer says all I would say to you.

 

However, if you seriously think it may be a problem there are plenty of help groups around where you can get confidential advice.  Look on the notice board in your local surgery or at the Library.

 

[smudge]

SCARFACE - my initial reply was in no way meant to indicate that you 'are' gay. As I said, you could just be going through a phase of not being interested in girls, but if you were concerned that you could be gay, the best person to see would be your GP. Just wanted to put the record straight, as these things can play on your mind. Chin up!

 

Yinzer-

youer reply was

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P.S. The last comment was supposed to read:

 

Yinzer your reply was brilliant & very helpful to SCARFACE & anyone else going through this stage in their lives.

[georgit79]

Bufferation, ICEMANSAV- are you attached?!

[ICEMANSAV]

Yes I am Georgit, have been for 8 months now, how come? and what does bufferation mean?

[Kos]

More of a mental problem than sexual I'd say

[georgit79]

Substitute the f's for g's and you've got it! AB Ed thinks it's a naughty word..

[CliveB]

ICEMAN and Georgit get a room! We could have a AB romance on the cards eh?!

[georgit79]

I don't think so CliveB- he's got a girlfriend! Though- am I that obvious?!

[country_boy]

I like the sound of you georgit, fancy a holiday in Cornwall?!!

[ICEMANSAV]

I am touched Georgit79 ( the real one!) shame for me eh!?