wife swapping

[zxr69]

really embarrasing question here. my wife and i have been married for 22 years, we both thought we had satasifying sexlife until we had a very drunken evening where we decided to confess our deepest fantasies, what a shock to both of us when we both had same main fantasy, wife swapping, just wondered everyones thought on this. Have tried twice - Is this normal?

[Velvetee]

It's probably more normal than you think. There are thousands of people who participate in Swinging, either at private house parties or at clubs specific to the purpose.

If it's what you both like and both have clear bounderies, then it isn't a problem. It's only a problem if one partner is into it, more than the other or you bypass your rules.

[zxr69]

hi there thanks for your answer, have to say both wanted and both enjoy our 2 experiences. To have sex and leave out love was so refreshing.

[waterboatman]

Nothing wrong with that at all as long as it what you both want. You are far from being the only ones, as velvetee says, it is widespread and you could even say natural. Enjot yourselves and don't feel guilty!

[stompe]

Try and see what you get for her!

[sqad617]

zxr69....interesting question....off for breakfast now, but will answer in full after breakfast.

[gucciman]

i have a really high sex drive and love adventurous sex so id love to go to a swingers party, trouble is i'm a jealous person so i'd hate to see my missus with other men, would have to go on my own!

[zxr69]

thankyou to all who have replied so far, hubby and i are very impressed that no one has given us abuse re our sex lives,,we actually had our third meet last night with another couple and both of us had the time of our lives,we dont intend to swing every week/month, but look forward to choosing our nextpartners,many thanks again.

[zxr69]

gucciman,i initally thought the same as yourself, but when it came to the crunch i felt nothing but love and pride to my wife knowing that other people found my wife attractive really gave me a buzz

[gucciman]

would you try dogging ?

[zxr69]

no we have a routine where we like to get to know who we are going to swap with, this we do via the swinging site we joined it gives you a chance to see the couple and get to know them and there likes/dislikes rather than turning up at a dogging site and hoping to find someone suitable, we are by no means brad and angelina lookalikes but both feel there has to be some sort of attraction there

[gucciman]

i can see what your saying but what would happen if you got to know someone really well and when you met up you were smitten, couldnt stop thinking abut them, the sex was better than with your wife and you fell in love with them?

[sqad617]

Velvetee, gucciman�.I agree with you both and I must point out from the start that the activities that we are discussing passed me by years ago�..unfortunately !!!

Wife swapping can do no harm to a relationship that has �gone flat� and the excitement has gone out of the relationship, quite the opposite, in can bring the partners closer together.
On the other hand wife swapping may come at a price, the break up of the marriage and family.
Pays your money and takes your chance���.although it is good fun.

Yes, I have been wife swapping in the past, but it has been covert and not overt !!!!!

Gucciman brings up the question of jealousy, this being very important, but can be exciting.

Doggin...not at my age and no, I wouldn't mind watching but not partaking.

Any thoughts on voyeurism?

[zxr69]

have to say neither mind being watched, different typeof excitement.

[Velvetee]

Voyeurism is more appealing I would say. People watching generally is interesting.

[sqad617]

VELVETEE !!!!!!!1 we were made for each other. That has surprised me coming from you....don't know why?

[obNOXious]

Can I ask what sex you are please zxr69 as you seem to mention both your husband AND your wife, or are you both transgender????

[zxr69]

thanx obnox we both had a laugh at your question,both of us have been on answering questions individually, hope that clears things up.

[Velvetee]

Squad I'm very open minded and of the opinion live and let live, just 6 months pregnant and lost all interest in sex.

[puddicat]

velvet my sweet you didnt like it much before you were preggars lol!!!