Brothers Choice Of Girlfriend

*Princess* | 02:09 Mon 02nd Mar 2009 | Body & Soul

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Ok, so my brother (24) has been going out with this girl for 4 years and nobody in the family likes her. What can we do? We try to talk to her but usually she comes in the house and doesn't talk. She also dumped him cos he didn't have a job. She flirts with everyone. I'm worried he is becoming dependent on her. What am I, or my family meant to do? I don't want to hurt my brother as he means the world to me, but she isn't good enough for him.

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dabees

He's a grown man, let him make his own mistakes. If you try and interfere, he'll only resent you for it.

Just be there for him if the relationship fails.

legendis.god

Dabees exactly.

Hes a grown man.

Treat him with the respect he desrves.
We all make mistakes but as adults we have the right to make those mistakes.

If everyone was perfectly matched from day one it would be very dull.

And who really gets on with the outlaws???

Truth be told not that many

LOl

*Princess*

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We've been trying to treat him with respect for choosing her for the past 4 years. She treats him like crap. She tells him to meet her somewhere and he does. Clicks her fingers and he appears. He has lost so much confidence since he got made redundant, I'm worried that she is controlling him. She tells him what to think and he thinks it. It's ridiculous, like you say he's a grown man.

Sad thing is he'd choose her over us any day.

dabees

Is it a surprise that he'd choose her over you? He loves her, that may not be the best thing for him. But only he can make that decision.

Just let him know you are there if he needs you. It sounds like he may need you soon, but telling him his choice is wrong will only push him away.

legendis.god

Sorry but id choose a loving woman over a domineering psychotic sister any day.

You seem vindictive and manipulative.
If yourre an example of hois family then im hgardly surprised he ignores you.

After 4 years its hardlya flash in the pan.
Why not back offff and get a llife yourself you really are overstepping the mark.

DAoes he need permission to go for a p1ss from you and the family?

Sounds like it .

*Princess*

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'Is it a surprise that he'd choose her over you?'

I don't mean just me, I mean the whole family. And yes it is a surprise. She treats him so badly it's terrible to think he'd choose that over our family.

I'm not forcing him to leave her, and I've told him numerous times I'm here for him whatever happens. Just tonight, the way he treated our mother, because of lies that she had said, I'm reaching the end of my tether of biting my tongue about his girlfriend.

legendis.god

Ooops typos .
Will i be reprimanded ?

Lol

Some folk can be so jealous really

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*Princess*

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I'll ignore anything legend says as he has something personal against me, which is pathetic tbh. He thinks I need a life? I've a good life thanks. I think he needs to get of AB for two minutes to experience real life. He needs to know real life doesn't happen in front of a PC screen bless him.

*Princess*

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legend learn to spell, it just makes you look thick. As for 'loving woman', do you think dumping someone because they got made redundant is loving?

legendis.god

I dont think anything yousay is clever.
Dabees gave good advice and im in agreement with him.

Only differeence is im more critical of your domineering family , in my opinion that is

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tamborine

ur brother hasn't got a lot to offer any woman if he's redundant - be grateful for a woman who 'takes him off your hands'. As for choosing her over his 'blood family' - that's what people do in relationships, you'll do the same sometime!

Butt out of their relationship and let them work it out themselves!

legendis.god

" I think he needs to get OF AB for two minutes "

Is it only me thats worried by the fact that princess is APPARENTLY a student at a english university.

BUT she cant tell the difference between OF and OFF !!!!

Im no rocket scientist .
but its safe to say , she isnt either.

I reckon shed struggle makin tea for a rocket scientist

ooooh la la la la laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

legendis.god

Tambo i think shes from the village of the damned+
they domnt let family go till theyre dead

lol

*Princess*

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OK, s-i-m-p-l-e question to legend, a YES or NO answer: Do you think dumping someone because they got made redundant is loving?

No chat from you, a simple YES or NO. One word answer. Now that's not difficult to understand is it? You either write YES or NO.

*Princess*

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As for bellend legend, he needs to learn to spell:

Is it only me THAT'S worried by the fact that princess is APPARENTLY a student at AN ENGLISH university.

BUT she CAN'T tell the difference between OF and OFF !!!!

I'M no rocket scientist .
but IT'S safe to say , she ISN'T either.

I reckon SHE'D struggle MAKING tea for a rocket scientist

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Wow legend your writing skills are appalling! Are you embarrassed? If you're not then you really should be!

*Princess*

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tamborine: ur brother hasn't got a lot to offer any woman if he's redundant - be grateful for a woman who 'takes him off your hands'. As for choosing her over his 'blood family' - that's what people do in relationships, you'll do the same sometime!

Butt out of their relationship and let them work it out themselves!

He does have a lot to offer. To some people, unlike yourself, money is not everything. If you loved someone, you would not dump them because they were made redundant. If you did dump them then that makes you look materialistic and greedy.

My brother is amazing.

legendis.god