Why did you get married??

[Miss Chief]

I have a lot of friends that are married and I don't understand why.

A lot of them divorce soon after... one of my friends tells me he wishes he'd never married his wife (less than 3 years ago) as she's ruined him emotionally and financially.

Another friend's husband hated her wearing clothing that he thought was revealing. They divorced after less than 2 years marriage.

When I hear stories like this I cannot believe that everyone who gets married truely believes that the person they are marrying is the one - they must have alternative reasons for getting married. Not wanting to be lonely, that sort of thing.

Now, I'm not suggesting that everyone who marries does it for less than honourable reasons (and even fewer people would be willing to admit it if they did), but - why did you get married??

[mallam]

And don't say you can't wait to join her. You MUST wait, in hope that there is some way you will, even if that hope proves vain (for you would not then be around to see it proved vain to you). You must keep up this wait so as to do all this praying in her memory and for her sake and yours, do you see? Watch and pray, that ye fall not into temptation.

[mallam]

Er, I think that should have been 'enter not into tempatation'.

And Whiskey, sorry I didnt address my last post to you, but please look at it.

[whiskeryron]

Thanks for your thoughts & kind comments I was feeling a bit down this morning, OK now. There are some very nice people on AB.Ron.

[Sasha13]

whiskeyron...

THAT's what I'm looking for. So it does exist. I'm so sick and tired of everyone trying to tell me that they are desperately in love with their partner,, they've never been happier blah blah blah only to divorce 2 years later.

And what's even worse is that I've thought that there is something wrong with me because I won't settle but am afraid of being alone for the rest of life.

You're post has reminded me why I won't settle and that I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than be with the wrong person.

Thank you.