friendships

[bubbles4920]

would you say that commenting about one friend to another is just commenting, chatting or bitchiness? when does bitchiness come into it? i know that someone has said something about me to someone else and dont know how to take it. what is the definition of gossiping amongst friends too? i would never say anything bad about my friends and hope my true friends wouldnt about me.

[bubbles4920]

and more to the point what is bitchiness?!

[coccinelle]

bitchy is spiteful according to the Oxford Dictionary.
I'd say being bitchy is saying something to someone you wouldn't actually say to the person concerned. Bitchiness often comes from jealousy.
As my Mum used to tell me, if you're going to say something about someone which isn't nice, don't say it!

[andy-hughes]

Conversation about friends to friends is social grooming. It's our civilised version of what apes and monkeys do when they comb each other - it produces bonding and a feeling of belonging.

Talking about friends is icnluded under bonding, but being nasty is something else eintirely.

A good measure of the leve is to imagine the subject sitting in earshot - is what you are saying something that would hurt them, or make them angry, or something that you have heard, but can't know if it is true? Then it's bitching.

[Naomicorlett]

If you can't say something nice about someone.....come and sit next to me and I will listen.

[bubbles4920]

any more takers?

[Ice.Maiden]

Bitchiness is when your so-called friends are all sweetness and light to your face, then say unflattering things about you behind your back. I don't know anyone like this, thankfully. All my friends are solid and true, and we accept each other, warts and all.

[tamborine]

Bitchiness is feminine......fits masculine better?