So many things in my life need to change

[angel21]

it takes too long.........

Need more confidence/assertiveness skills
Need more money
Need own space and own place
Need some good girl friends
Need to improve relationships at work if poss
Need to get rid of ex

[noway2]

Need to get rid of ex.If he's your ex,aren't you already rid of him?

[angel21]

I think I need to focus on the confidence/assertiveness one first as a lot of the other things stem from this one problem. Typical the one thats going to take the longest to achieve has to be the first one I do.

BTW Vibra, I had some cannabis custard the other night - it was ming

[angel21]

started seeing him again but don't like to say we are back together so I still call him my ex

[yogi.bear]

Hi angel x

Do the last one FIRST...............

and then all the others will work itself out!......and you'll be a happy litlle bunny........said it loads of times...and will yet again!

love to you, angel

yogi xxx

:0)

[yogi.bear]

'started seeing him again'.....................

Oh angel.......ffs!!!

:0(

[angel21]

Just doing the last one won't solve all the other problems. It will just give me more time to dwell on them and more time to work them out. Had 18 months of free time to do that and didnt get anywhere. Probs partly why I'm clinging to ex - nothing else to cling to

[yogi.bear]

i give up!!!!

:0)

[angel21]

now you know how I feel lol :o)

[redman41]

Angel21
Clinging on to the past is not the way forward ! To move on with your life you have to let go like I have done. It's no wonder your confidence is at a low ebb. A new career where you can meet new people or even a move away from your present location will help get rid of past anxieties.
There is a whole new world out there as long as you have the courage to change everything that keeps you in a rut.
Find a job which involves travel e.g Working on a Cruise Liner ! I have travelled extensively and it changed my life completely. Go for it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[angel21]

Hey redman, well I was wondering about a whole new life - moving away, new job, make friends, new scenery etc. but I wonder if that really is the answer as my problems seem to be within me - I can't run from them.

[angel21]

Having said that it might still be a good idea to have a whole new start!

[redman41]

Well Angel, it's not a case of abandoning everything that you hold dear such as Family or treasured Friends, it's all about finding the real you that is hidden in the dark recesses of your mind. To be happy you will have to change otherwise it is a wasted life and one day when you are old and frail you will look back on your life and think 'I wish I had done that'. It's too late then !
Whatever you choose to do, best of luck !!!!

[angel21]

Oh no I wouldn't abandon family and no firneds to abandon. I was thinking of moving in with mum for a fresh start 50 miles away. Means I would be 50 miles from my dad and brother instead of 50 miles from my mum.

Thanks for your kind wishes redman! Well done on your success at finding what you were looking for xx

[zzxxee]

if they are an ex why do you need to get rid of them?

[angel21]

lol I just posted on your post saying to come and have a look at my thread - well as I said above I am seeing ex again but don't class us as back together so still call him an ex

[rinkins]

Oh angel I have only just seen this. I f you can deal with the last thing first you will find that you have the inner strength which will give you more confidence and start you off in the right direction. Are you still going to do it tonight?

P.S Is yogi still about?

YYOOOOGGGIIIIII......

[rinkins]

One thing at a time honey, honestly. It'll come you just have to be patient x

[angel21]

I'm going to try Rinkins but I did tell myself I was going to do it yesterday and the day before and the day before etc. but no I really am going to try tonight.

[ummmm]

angel...you keep saying the same things on here over and over again. People have given you advise loads of times but you don't listen.