Boosting confidence

[rov1200]

What methods are available to boost the confidence of a 17 year old girl? She is at college and has part time work. She was offered a higher position at work but refused it instead taking demeaning jobs with no responsibility or matching her intelligence. Her only friend is also a recluse.

Are there courses to boost self worth and esteem? Any self help from the internet would also be welcome?

[chloe95]

get her to have a practice interveiw with her parents

[andres]

Looks as though you are worrying for nothing. Is this girl happy? You say she is at College where I presume she is studying for exams? Doing part-time work as well.Why do you want her to take on more responsibility at the moment?Far better that she should be able to leave her present job at the end of her shift and have time to do her studies. All work and no play,etc. You don't say what kind of work she is doing but as long as she is happy , don't worry.

[kira000]

She may not have the confidence that she is able to do more responsible tasks.

Make sure she has plenty of praise for what she is doing, and explain why she has done something well, so she can see it is real. I.e. that was a really good job, you are so good at seeing the detail in things.. wow, i would never have thought to do it like that, thats a really clever idea.

Then, maybe think of some slightly more taxing tasks, and ask her to take them on for you. Explain that you want her to do them, as you think she is the best person to do it, because of X,y,z reason. That is would really help you out f she would do it. That you rally believe she will do a great job. If she seems unsure that she can, re-affirm that you believe in her, and that of course, you will be there to support her if she needs any help.

Then, explain the task, check her understanding of what she is going to to do, so that she feels confident she is on the right path, and then let her get on, dont be tempted to keep on her back, checking, as that will infer you dont trust her. But make sure, he knows she can as for help, without it being seen as failure. Then, give plenly of positive feedback..

Good Luck.