You are not alone! THIS big softie ought to know better and I ought to practise what I usually preach. However I've one pup now who wouldn't settle. My expectation, from past experience, is that he can be left to sleep where he's happy at that age. In due course, when he's older, more settled and confident he'll sleep where you leave him ,and adjust to that. My pup, being odd, has suddenly taken the decision himself. Last night, for the first time ; having come upstairs for a while, as usual, he took himself off downstairs and settled there.( I don't think he likes the bedside radio on all night, or maybe it's the snoring! LOL) The earlier instance did not involve the dog making the decision.Once she seemed old enough to try this, I simply put her downstairs, reassured her (acting much as if I were going out and leaving her), and left her. If she then did start to follow me I put her back, said 'No, good girl' reassured her and left.She adjusted , without whining or fussing and accepted that she was to sleep on her 'bed' downstairs at night (as, indeed, she would do in the day)