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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.2 people in an intimate relationship sort of become eachother's property, and now you're not his anymore.
Whatever you decide to do , do it fully. If you tell then say it and pack your bags and don't call. If you don't tell then NEVER tell and forget it ever happened and love him as best as you know he deserves to be loved.
Sorry, don't mean to rub the guilt in, but that was a pretty F***ed up thing to do.
I would always prefer to know the truth. If you are lying to someone, its as if you do not respect them enough to give them the truth.
You say you don't want to lose what you have, but just take a look at what you two do actually have right now. You are both terribly insecure, and your poor bf is totally unaware that you have been unfaithful to him, on more than one occasion. If you carry on together for the next twenty years, your bf is going to be thinking that your relationship is one thing, when in fact, it is something different entirely - do you really want to deceive him like that? Think about how you would feel - you cannot change the cheating, but you can stop deceiving him NOW. If you keep schtum, you will be deceiving him every moment you are together - maybe I am someone that values truth more than most, but that is an absolutely horrible thought to me. I think it's terribly gutless when people decide not to fess up 'to spare their partners the pain', and 'punish themselves by living with the guilt' - please! You are not doing your partner some big favour by doing this!
I'm trying not to judge - we all mess up. But if I were you, I'd come clean (If I were in your boyfriend's position, I would also want my partner to come clean)- your relationship is a joke while you are engaging in this deception of your boyfriend. You sound like you bitterly regret what has happened, so why go on cheating your boyfriend? I feel bad for you - it's not an easy situation at all, but at the moment, all you have is the imitation of a relationship anyway.