how can..

[masma]

life be so cruel. In the past 5 years I've lost 2 brothers, 3 sisters and a 23 year old nephew. My sister-in-law had breast cancer, my son is an alcoholic and has lost everything. Now, today, to put the tin lid on everything my son-in-law as walked out on my daughter. She's been told that she can't have children and he said before he went that he never wanted them anyway, how can anyone be so cruel. I'm feeling now that I can't go on - I've asked Mr M to join me but he says it's not fair in our kids, I say they'll get over it in time. Will they? Or should I just trot on on my own?

[ummmm]

Do you want the rest of your family to mourn for the rest of their lives? Do you want them to live everyday in guilt. Your son to turn to drink even more?

[masma]

Not much family left and can't see my son living beyond Christmas. The ony two I care about leaving are Mr M and my daughter - it breaks my heart to think of them but I can't see any way forword.

[ummmm]

You have your own life....live YOUR life. Yes death is painful and grief is consuming but it's going to happen no matter who you are.

I've lost 5 people in less than 2 years...and they were just the people close to me. You have to grin and bare it and know things will get easier.

[Drisgirl]

O man -with all that -you need to take a step back -im seriois.

Get yourself sorted amd let them stop leaning on you and stand for themselves.

You have had a bad deal -no doubt but start thinking of you then the rest wont put it all on you if that makes sense.

Good Luck -keep us posted hun xxx

[snags]

masma... I cannot begin to imagine how you feel, all I can say is, from what you've said above, your Daughter is really going to need your love and support right now... reason enough to hang about eh?

[masma]

Thank you all for taking the time to reply - I just feel so sad...I don't feel as though I can keep being strong for everyone. It's easy to say take a step back but how can I let my loved ones down. I feel as if I'm being so weak. After what they're all putting me through (those that are gone and those that are here) I don't feel as though I can take much more.

[masma]

Tonyted - thanks for that - I do believe you've made my mind up for me.

[snags]

''I feel as if I'm being so weak''

You're just being human. And you don't have to do this on your own... remember that.

[China Doll]

http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

[masma]

Tonyted - I can assure you that this ain't a wind up. Night night all - God bless.

[nohorn]

Masma: I really feel for you; we all will be in your position someday. Especially those who are from large families. The larger the family, the more kids you have, the more chance of sad things will happen. I hope you can stay strong. And unfortunately it is probably all down hill from here. When we were younger everything always seemed rosy, so much of life to look forward to. Now we look down hill. All I can say is always count your blessings. It does help some. For example, your daughter wasn't stranded with small children to take care of, she is not on drugs or alcohol, you aren't on drugs or alcohol, etc. God Bless

[tinkerbell23]

masma i hope for the best for you i really do...pls keep us posted!...things will get better...mabye your doc could help..theres no shame in that....

im sure i speak for all ABers when i say that were all here to lend an ear for you

god bless....xx

[horselady]

Masma

Hope you feel a bit better today, problems are always worse in the middle of the night. You know you will carry on, you're too strong a person to give up. Life is cruel, but don't make it even more cruel for your husband and daughter. As others have said, you know where to come when you need to talk.
xx

[sacha.86]

it must be so hard for you, but i believe you never go through more than you can cope with. its part of the path to make you who you are. You will see a brighter day one day and your probably alot stronger than you think and alot stronger than most other people are. You should have a lot of respet for yourself for still being here after all that you have gone through you are very brave. Hope things work out x

[lil123]

I have been through so much in my life too and have learnt to think positive and focus on what ever I can find that is positive even if some days it feels like it's something small and trivial.
I'm going through another tough time at the moment too as my daughter as had to come back to live with me after being sectioned in hospital for last few months. She used to steal off me and have parties in my house while I was at work and all sorts.
I feel like my whole world has been torn apart and my small sons.
I'm writting down how I want my life to be and focusing on this, a life coach I went to see showed me this.
The feeling of not knowing what to do is the hardest and lack of support.
I know how you are feeling xx

[Androcles]

Having had a family member say all this, and been through them wanting to end it al so many timesl, so I am going to be a bit brutal.

I just have a few questions - how are you going to do it, what happens if it goes wrong and you are left incapacitated, and what would you then say to the remains of your family who are left with the problem of coping with you, assuming you can still comunicate?

Perhaps you need to take a little time, think about the things you have to live for, and get yourself some help. The Samaritans are great at listening and there are many other people who will help. If you need to come on here asking what to do, you must be prepared to listen a bit...........