How can I stop feeling so insecure?

buffymad | 09:58 Sun 27th Dec 2009 | Relationships & Dating

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I've been married for 12 years and been together with my hubby for nearly 22 years. All fine and dandy although I'll admit I was very insecure at the start of the relationship - I don't know why as nothing has ever happened to make me feel insecure. Anyhow, my husband had a major change of job which meant him working with females (shock!) - he'd been in a normally male environment before that. I've met all the girls at his work & like them although at the start I was a bit prickly about it - daft I know. One of the girls gives him a lift to work and back, she doesn't live too far away and it gives him more time at home. Anyway, through one thing and another I've gotten really insecure about this. I dont feel 100% comfortable with this woman although I trust him 100%. She's ok, I've chatted on with her and she doesnt act differently with me or anything (she lives with her own boyfriend by the way). Hubby has done nothing whatsoever to make me suspicious and actually reassures me about everything coz I've spoken to him about this. BUT I just hate having the feeling that she might fancy him and I get upset about it. He doesnt think she does. Shes one of these people who have lots of male friends. So I dont know if I'm just insecure coz its just been "me and him" for so long and now new people have arrived on the scene that I have no control over (that sounds bad but I dont mean it that way!).

Hubby has reassured me time and time again but sometimes I just cant help myself and say something catty or nasty and then he gets annoyed coz he cant see why I'm still acting like this!

Part 2 to follow - sorry for the length!!