low sex drive

[Nic2010]

Hi, I just wanted to know if there is anything out there herbal or otherwise to increase your sex drive. Sometimes i feel like the only time i have sex is when i have had a few drinks and often out it off. I know everyone is different but for the sake of a great new relationship i am in i want to feel like it abit more!
any advice or suggestions?

[bobjugs12]

Try not heaping so much pressure on yourself. Settle down, enjoy yourself, and let nature take it's course.
When you relax you can enjoy it so much more. And if there is still problems then try differnet things, oral, toys etc.

[Bbbananas]

I think the toys bit depends on how 'new' the relationship is. It can be a disconcerting to heap the entire contents of the Ann Summers' collection on the bed and say "would you like to choose.....?".
How old are you Nic?

[ummmm]

Do you know the more sex you have the more you want?

I presume you are female....

I find, even when I'm not in the mood, that when we start it only takes me a minute or so to get in the mood.

Does he know what buttons to push to get you going?

[Bbbananas]

Exactomondo..... is it your low libido, or does he need a bit of a sat-nav?

[mazie]

sorry, don't mean to laugh, but sexual sat nav. Love it, I'm going to get one

[Bbbananas]

I ought to patent the idea maizie - and call it a pudding-nav

(Sorry, this is probably not the section for such depravity.....) ;-)

[jno]

make sure you get the co-ordinates right, mazie, you don't want one that leads you to the wrong house.

Nic, are you sure it's actually your sex drive that's the problem? The reason I ask is because if you don't feel like it, drink shouldn't be any help. On the other hand, if you're in some way worried about it or afraid of it, alcohol might reduce your inhibitions - so perhaps something like that is the problem? I'm only guessing.

[mazie]

I think its probably the perfect section for it salla (love your photo)

make sure you get the co-ordinates right, mazie, you don't want one that leads you to the wrong house. - LOL jno, wishful thinking that ;o)

[Davethedog]

Salla - Pudding-Nav :-D

Nic the biggest "sex" organ is the brain. Take what ever turns you on and try it. If you lose your inhibitions who knows what heights you may hit.

P.S leave no 72 out until you have a bit of experience :-)

[Bbbananas]

which one maizie - the real me or the other me?!!!

Nic - you could try some of those lubricant gels that are supposed to give you a nice 'tingle'.

[mazie]

The one I'm seeing now salla is a very lovely young lady in a black dress and a big smile (is that you?)

[Bbbananas]

Oui, c'est moi.
Lil's hen night. The photo's a bit fuzzy, and so were we!

[mazie]

sorry Nic 2010 didnt mean to highjack your thread. Dave has the right idea, I always think that "where the brain leads the rest of you will follow" Good luck with it x

[Davethedog]

Oh Salla not at all like your avatar.

[madmaggot]

Horny Goat Weed; get it from health food shops. (No, I'm not joking)!
Never tried it though (lol) so I can vouch for it's efficacy.

[Sqad]

Nic.......try it with the opposite sex..............you know it makes sense.

[Bbbananas]

is that a good thing dave?!!!

Nic - try the lubricant thing. You can get them in Boots.

[mazie]

Why does it make sense?

[Sqad]

mazie...LOL.....well he can't do much worse, can he?

[Bbbananas]

If this is such a 'great new relationship' Nic - then persevere. As time goes by and you become more familiar with each other and more relaxed (inhibited), I'm sure it will improve. Often, you don't feel like it, but once you start - if you're being 'warmed up' properly, you find you enjoy it.... ;-)