why do i get like this?

[xxlizziexx]

im sorry but i dont know what caragory to put this in so i have just put it in this one!
ok so the last week or so i have been the happiest girl in the world, i am inlove with my ex boyfriend ( we are just seeing each other now ) and everything is good at home, ive got everything that ive wanted, im ever so happy with my guy and just theres nothing to b sad about, ive also been the sadest girl, ive had a fite with my ex and an ex best friend of mine and got in a bit of trouble at school and my mum is a bit anoyed at the moment. but im still positvie and happy, i really am truly happy, during the day im ever so happy yet at nite what ever i do im so sad, i cry and dont understand why, i really want to get rid of this and have tryed everything i can think of please has anoyone got any ideas of how i can be happy at night? please i know this is such an odd question i just need advice before i do soemthing i dont want to do,
sorry ive gone on i no, thank you xxlizziexx

[kaz35]

You poor thing, Lizzie.  You don't say your age, but I'm guessing you're in your teens - not an easy time.  If you really don't know why you're feeling like this, and can't pinpoint the reason, it could be your hormones, all being in a jumble, as they tend to be sometimes, & your emotions going from one end of the scale to the other.  Is it cyclic, as in do you get like this, say, a week before your period is due?  If that's the case, it could be PMT, for which there is supplememtary medicines & natural remedies that you can take to help with this.  You would obviously need to discuss this with your doctor.  Does this feeling of being upset only happen if you're in the house in the evening?  Try to do something that's fun, going to the pictures with your boyfriend, bowling, anything that you enjoy doing, to get out of the spiral of feeling low.  I hope that these suggestions have given you some ideas of why you may feel like this, but I really do think that you need to talk to someone about it as well, perhaps your Mum - I know you said she's a bit annoyed, but she's your mum & she loves you - mums get annoyed sometimes!!  I'm sure you'll feel better if you share your problems and try to remedy what's wrong with the help of someone else.  I hope you feel better soon, take care xx :)

[xxlizziexx]

thank you for your answer kaz35, very kind of you,
im 14 to let you know that and im in year 10, its not PMT beacuse i jsut fnished my period about a week ago and im actully usually quite happy a week before my period, oo going out seems like a good idea kaz, i mite do that, but when i have done it before im still really down and just wana cry if that makes sence, hmm, i mite have a sleep over or something ey and see if that makes me feel better, i will try them ideas and see, as for my mum, to be honest i would rather keep this to me, im not that close with my mum yes we are getting closer but im not that close, i know that she will just respnce in a rude way, so im kind of keeping it to me nad trying to sort it out.
thanx again

xxlizziexx

[ginger 69]

 you need a hug off someone. I definatley think you should talk to someone maybe a doctor (which would be in total confidence) as you may need refering to some help organization or a teacher at school that you trust.  Good luck and take care x

[Casey]

I have felt exactly the same as you lizzie, I am 20 now but I remember going through a similar thing when I was about 16, where I was happy with my life but somehow still felt upset and felt sorry for myself as though there was something missing but I didn't know what. A lot of it I think is to do with your hormones changing, is there anything you really enjoy doing as a hobby? Maybe you could take something up at night times to keep yourself occupied and so you are focusing on something you enjoy. I have always danced my whole life, and I remember one day I was having a really cr*p start to the day, I got to college and danced for 8 hours..I never felt as good in my life afterwards! I know this probably sounds a bit strange to you, but it was my way of escaping from the world and it got the adrenaline pumping around my body! Yoga is supposed to be good aswell! Stay positive, good luck x

[ursula62]

Hi lizzie

Being a teenager is hard work. I remember crying myself to sleep many times - and imagining if I died who wouldn't bother to come to the funeral.

 

You are completely normal, so don't worry about that. And it will pass, honest!

 

In the meantime, why not try doing something nice for yourself before you go to bed... have a scented bath by candlelight, listen to some music that makes you feel happy, read a chapter from a favourite book, or write down all the happy things that have happened to you today.

Above all, remember this doesn't last, and you will get through it.

All the best!