My quandary with K-

[Tock389]

I asked out a girl who I know through work. We went out for a friendly drink a couple of weeks back. I e-mailed her the day after to say I had a great time, she made me laugh etc- nothing more. I e-mailed her several days later, asking if she would like to go out for a drink in the next fortnight. Had no reply - about a week later, I sent her some flowers for Valentine's Day (anonymously) - still heard nothing. Is she playing hard to get, or am I just wasting my time? I don't mind asking a hundred times, but don't want to appear to be pestering her..just a bit miffed that if she isn't interested, she can't say - then we can go back to just speaking about work matters

[spunkypumpkn]

Sorry to have to tell you this.... but she's just not into you. Not in the way that you are looking for anyway. 

I'm sure that she likes you and wants to be friendly, but if a girl is asked out on a second date by a bloke who she wants to date.... she'll respond.

She's obviously finding it difficult to tell you that shes not interested in you romantically.  Go back to being mates. Talk to her in private if you feel that you can/want to, and maybe that will clear the air.

Sorry. But jump back on and ask somebody else. Tried speeddating?

[Jules001]

there maybe a very simple reason why she hasn't responded, you may have the wrong email addy and as you sent the flowers anonymously she may not have worked out they were from you. Is there another way you can contact her - she may be feeling that you aren't interested . I may just be a hopeless romantic, but I would say don't give up yet .

[Greenbhoy]

I must admit that i disagree with romantic Jules001. I would quit now before she thinks you are stalking her and gets the police involved.

I bet she was a lovely lassie but, there are other women out there that would probably jump at the chance of being with you.

 

Good luck, it's a jungle out there. 

[Casey]

Just ask her to her face if she's interested or not, make it clear that there will be no hard feelings if she just wants to be friends. It's the easiest way

[Englishbird]

You're wasting your time hon, sorry.  I hate it, i'd rather just know, it's not going to bring my world to a standstill and i can just get on with my life rather than constantly wondering.

She's obviously not worth it. Next time you speak to her about work, just be really chirpy and friendly but don't mention the drink or the emails or anything. 

[landie]

Play it cool, don't chase, you'llfind someone else.

[barclay]

i definately agree with everyone. I once had a guy asking me out on a number of occasions, he was an ace guy. But just not my type, i should of however told him straight away and told him i wasnt interested. but i didnt i kinda just ignored him after our date. Not a nice thing to do, but i find it very difficult saying no to someone. Take my advise and move on. Be friendly to her at work and just pretend you never went out.I know now that honesty is definately the best policy, and now ive told him, we are good mates now.