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Am i over-reacting??
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I think i may be over-reacting slightly but i can't help the way i feel right now which is pretty much abandoned and let down by my boyfriend....anyway do you think i am over-reacting and should i say something? (sorry its long!)
Me and my boyfriend don't live together but i cook for him most nights as we don't see each other throughout the day so its nice to do something to spend time together etc, so these last couple of weeks i have been none stop revising for a total of 6 exams i have whereas he has only one which is gone now and i still have three to go so we decided to cook seperately so that i had more time with my work and everything which means i have hardly seen him so today i took the afternoon off to go and watch his team play football in the freezing cold (and i don't like football) and then when he got home i brought over all the ingredients as we had agreed to cook together and spend the evening catching up but then one of the other football guys tells him they are all going out to celebrate their win, so i bought the food, cooked for him, washed up everything and then he just leaves saying he will only be out an hour or so, then it turns into he'll come see me at half 11 after watching match of the day and then i just get a text saying they are going back to the pub so he won't come see me making an excuse of being best with all my exams!! I am stuck by myself all this time working hard and then take time out to try and make a nice evening and then he just changes his mind and heads out so i am back by myself! I just feel a bit letdown by the lack of support i am getting from him especially when i have made an effort! Am i over-reacting and should i say anything to him? Thanks
I think i may be over-reacting slightly but i can't help the way i feel right now which is pretty much abandoned and let down by my boyfriend....anyway do you think i am over-reacting and should i say something? (sorry its long!)
Me and my boyfriend don't live together but i cook for him most nights as we don't see each other throughout the day so its nice to do something to spend time together etc, so these last couple of weeks i have been none stop revising for a total of 6 exams i have whereas he has only one which is gone now and i still have three to go so we decided to cook seperately so that i had more time with my work and everything which means i have hardly seen him so today i took the afternoon off to go and watch his team play football in the freezing cold (and i don't like football) and then when he got home i brought over all the ingredients as we had agreed to cook together and spend the evening catching up but then one of the other football guys tells him they are all going out to celebrate their win, so i bought the food, cooked for him, washed up everything and then he just leaves saying he will only be out an hour or so, then it turns into he'll come see me at half 11 after watching match of the day and then i just get a text saying they are going back to the pub so he won't come see me making an excuse of being best with all my exams!! I am stuck by myself all this time working hard and then take time out to try and make a nice evening and then he just changes his mind and heads out so i am back by myself! I just feel a bit letdown by the lack of support i am getting from him especially when i have made an effort! Am i over-reacting and should i say anything to him? Thanks
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.you should expect support from your boyfriend but you should also avoid the temptation or the possible accusation that you are trying to control your other half by cooking etc for him e.g. if you want to do something nice you should but don't demand certain things in return.
When it comes to arrangements most women seem to be quite well organised and will plan things well in advanced - whereas me and the other guys I know tend to organise things at the last minute... this can make life difficult for quick trips to the pub when the other half has filled the calendar for the next month but a bit of communication and acceptance of the others "ways" does wonders recriminations after the event do not though!
When it comes to arrangements most women seem to be quite well organised and will plan things well in advanced - whereas me and the other guys I know tend to organise things at the last minute... this can make life difficult for quick trips to the pub when the other half has filled the calendar for the next month but a bit of communication and acceptance of the others "ways" does wonders recriminations after the event do not though!