Should I give my husband 15000?

[rxn29]

My husband wants 15000 out of my auto accident settlement. I am willing to give him 10000. I tried negotiating with him but he says he does not want to hear my nonsense. He says to give him the money or that it will put a rip on our relationship. He thinks our children deserve less than what he will pay to child support. I was gonna move the money to my account because I am afraid that he will take all the funds and leave me nothing. I am really confused. What should I do?

[jd_here]

With threats like that, I'd give him nothing.

[rxn29]

I have been told not to give him anything. I am very confused I have also been told to move the funds over to my account. If I do this I know he will go crazy....

[emmie]

Give him nothing, anyone that can say that and hold you to ransom doesn't deserve a thing.

[pink-kittens]

Move it now and talk about it later
You don't want to end up with none of it

[rxn29]

Thank you for your answers. I want to move it but I am afraid that it will make matters worse but I am also afraid of ending up with nothing. What if he ends our relationship over this?

[emmie]

are you separated, if not why would you stay with someone who has bullied you in that way.

[rxn29]

I am not afraid of standing up to him. I have tried talking to him and he will not listen. Like I said I am willing to negotiate. I don't want to have problems specially over money but I honestly think he is asking for too much. We have never had a joint account until the check came and I was forced to open a joint account because his name was on the check also. His name was on it because it is a procedure followed by the insurance company so that he does not go after them. It clearly stated on the check that it is my settlement. He is really bad with money and that is what scares me the most.

[boxtops]

Since we don't know what happened with the accident or why his name is also on the cheque, it's hard to say. Is this to do with a personal injury claim for you, but the policy was in both your names? In which case if you were injured then it's your money - move the money into your own account. You talk about child support as if you and your husband are not together?
You have two choices - move the money, so he can't fritter it, keep it for what YOU need it for - and risk losing your greedy spendthrift husband - or give it to him, and he'll waste it anyway. It must have been some settlement if 15000 is only part of it. I would hang onto the money, it sounds like you might need it for your future.

[rowanwitch]

it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship to lose...keep the money use it for a fresh start

[rxn29]

It was our policy, but it is a personal injury. The child support is for a child from a previous relationship.

[boxtops]

what will happen if you move the money and he goes crazy? Just that. It sounds as if it's your money to do with as you choose - not for him to negotiate a share with you, particularly since you have your children to think about. Move it, move it today.

[boxtops]

^^ In which case, the PI claim is for YOU, not to be shared. I stand by what I said earlier.

[pink-kittens]

what exactly does he need the money for anyway? Surely being your claim he could expect nothing more than for you to spend the money on something joint, not something for himself only?
FWIW, if he really does his nut over it then he really is not husband material - mine would ask me what I was going to buy for MYSELF not for him

[Jemisa]

I don't understand is this money £15.000? why are you giving him £10.000 anyway, If you are giving him a share why isn't it half £7.500.
If he wants all of £15.000 why does he want it? Will he walk out on you if you gave it to him?
How are you going to live in harmoney after all this anyway.?
Get Rid.

jem

[Ric.ror]

Move it NOW
It puts you in a position of strength
Then have a long hard look at your relationship

[rxn29]

He wants fifteen thousand dollars. He wants to pay child support(child from a previous relationship) with some of it, give some to his mom and something else which he is not telling me.

[pink-kittens]

so is the threat of jail over his head with regard ot child support?

[Jemisa]

Secrets & Lies, Secrets & Lies...... Oh dear! "What a tangled web we weave...

jem

[rxn29]

No jail time yet, unless he keeps it up. He has not paid because he choses not to. He makes good money, but he is bad with it:(