Should I go?

[chinadog]

There is a fella near me who's very friendly and has been asking me out since my hubby left in June. He says he just wants to be friends but Im wary and I feel its too soon. Should I go out with him just for a quiet drink? TIA.

[Old_Geezer]

Only you can make that decision. It may remain innocent enough but I'd suspect he is hoping something will bloom from it. You can always make it clear from the start though, that it is too early to have more than just friends, and a number of them.

[ummmm]

Do you like him?

[chinadog]

Hmm my thoughts exactly OG. I think I'll leave it for a while longer at least.

[B00]

No reason why you can't go out for a quiet drink is there? As long as if you make it clear from the onset that you want to be friends- then who knows?

[chinadog]

Ummm yeh I've always got on with him,he knew my OH as well but I dont fancy him lol.
Trim, No Im not in prison,since OH shot off on the contrary:-)

[SizzleSquid]

Go for a quick drink, somewhere public, the pub or a bar, but decline any offers of going back to his place or anything if you do go.

Before you go say that you hope this is just a friendly drink as you dont feel ready to move on yet and you are enjoying being single at the moment and are re evaluating yourself, but you are happy to have a drink. He might be just being friendly but if its more ask him, it wont hurt and will avoid alot of explaining from you at a later date-but dont lose out on a potential friend he might turn out to be very a nice person

[Sqad]

BOO


"As long as if you make it clear from the onset that you want to be friends- then who knows?"

If a woman laid down those "ground rules" at the start of an evening, i would say..FORGET IT.

[B00]

Well guess Chinadog should consider herself lucky that the fella who's asked her out aint you then Sqad :-)

[chinadog]

Oh Im all mixed up now Boo. Should I stay or should I go now:-)

[Sqad]

BOO...quite!.

How about the bloke laying down pre-dating rules? What would the woman say?

[B00]

If you want to go, just as friends Chinadog, i really don't see why you shouldn't. Like I said, as long as you make it crystal clear its just as friends. You'd think nothing of going out with a girl as a mate to the pub would you? Think of him as the same, 'cept with dangy bits (that you won't be fiddling with!)

[B00]

I don't see why, if the situations, were reversed a woman'd get huffy Sqad?

[Prudie]

If I didn't fancy him I wouldn't go

[chinadog]

That's what I dont want,the snogs,groping etc. I cant be with all that,its too early for me. I've told him he's a good friend so I hope if I go out he takes the hint.

[Philtaz]

You must think he's not half bad if you're asking whether or not to go, so...

I'd say go and have a couple of drinks and say you have to be away for 10 ish.

Somewhere public and local, unless you're worried about tongues wagging in which case you could go a little further afield, but still stay 'public'.

Won't harm, will it?

[B00]

There's no need for him to take the hint, if you bluntly tell him, from the start that there'll be no shennighans.

[B00]

Why not Prudie, if you considered him a friend?

[chinadog]

Laughing at Boo's "Dangly bits" thanks all you've made up my mind. I'll go but tell him no funny business. China.

[Sqad]

BOO

"if you bluntly tell him, from the start "

God, he is a lucky chap.