Over reaction to absent hubbie overnight??

[Smowball]

To cut very long story short, my OH was due to meet friends to watch a footie match on Saturday at about noon, and was then due home for dinner in the eve.I last got a txt at 6 pm saying he was still with them all in pub. so I replied saying ok, when do you think you will be leaving as it was about an hour home. He always always txts wen on train home. That was the last I heard from him. i left it a few hours, by now it was getting late. I rang his mobile but no reply. I didnt know the numbers of anybody that he was with, and this was totally out of character.By 1 am I was in such a state that I called the police, who were very lovely and although they didnt come round they told me to keep them updated.Morning came and still no word or sign, then about 8am I suddenly realised that I did have a mob number for the main friend that he met as it was on an invitation he had given us months ago. I flung open drawers and finally fouund it. called it but just rang out so left and voicemail and then a text. Half an hour later the friend calls to say that my OH got a bit the worse for wear and fell asleep on his sofa, and they couldnt call me as his mob started to play up! Says he was on his way home now.So I straight away call police to tell them the update and while Im on the phone to them he walked in the door. Not a sorry, not an apology, just sat down to watch tv. Well Im sorry but I exploded. I had imagined all sorts of things and the relief as seeing him was just too much. he did just sit there and take everything I said but still looked bemused and best he could come up with was that it wasnt planned. But when somebody has never ever done that in 8 years then I was bound to think the worse wasnt I??

[andy-hughes]

Messi - what's the difference to someone waiting at home between passed out on someone's floor, and lying in a hospital bed or a mortuary? In terms of worry in the small hours - nothing!

Don't be so selfish - if you behave like that, your partner deserves better.

[andy-hughes]

I've got a tenner that says Messi and Space Cadet are men, and another tenner that says you won't find one married woman on here who thinks like you, that this is all just a bit of fun, and what's all the fuss about.

[ummmm]

Lol Andy....

I wouldn't be happy if my OH did it....but I wouldn't be angry either.

If it was a weekly occurrence, maybe, but once in 6 years. That's not bad going.

I would suggest that snowball gets his friends phone numbers...

[Robinia]

It's probably the fact that it is the first time in six years that it caused Smoball so much worry. He should have apologised, I hate the 'Well I'm here now' attitude.

[Robinia]

actually I see it's eight years :o)

[ummmm]

Yes, absolutely.....mine would walk in waving a white flag.

[chelle7272]

Have to say i agree with ummmm. It does happen from time to time. My OH did it a few weeks ago, but I did get an apology as he's knows what's good for him!

I understand if it's unusual for him that you'd be very worried, but for future reference i'd make sure I had contact numbers for his friends.

And I'd definitely have words about the non apology.......

[Smowball]

Hi guys again, like I said, if he had said look its gona be an all nighter - dont stay up then that would have been fine. He has even gone away for the weekend with these guys but I knew where he was so no prob again. its the fact that he has never ever not come home when expected to that I was fearing the worse. I mean, how long are you meant to leave it and not do anything - till 8 am, 10 am, noon.........??

[B00]

Make sure you sneeze on his tea tonight smowball.

[Robinia]

Well thankfully he was ok this time and there's nothing much you can do apart from dragging it on and on. Next time he goes out - if there is a next time - ask him to call you if he's going to stay out all night so you can have a good night's sleep.

[sherrardk]

My husband did this once, but I kind of knew it might be on the cards. I gave him the cold shoulder for a couple of days and then it blew over. (PS - but he had also managed to get in to a fight and had a split lip and black eye so I was cross about that too.)

[Smowball]

well he does have a massive bruise on his arm which he says he has no idea how it got there. Im not gona carry it on tonight, it isnt worth it, just think he has been an inconsiderate sh*t

[ummmm]

Yes, he has...

[Smowball]

Hi guys, all quiet in the smowball camp. Hasnt been mentioned since. Cant really do anything now can I, just better not happen again!

[joeluke]

Not the old 'mobile was playing up/couldn't get a signal/battery ran out' excuse

He was probably with another woman

[Smowball]

Yes probably, well if he was then there is bugger all I can do about it now.