Dating Site - genuine people?

[liquidspace]

My question is kind of along these lines: if someone is on a dating site and is pretending to be someone or something they are not what are they actually getting out of it?

I have been exchanging mails with a man who is an italian businessman, an engineer who travels the world. Bottom line is that he wants to buy me presents, says he has fallen for me and basically he seems too good to be true in the things he says to me. He says he is a widow and that I now have his heart etc.

Im dubious until I actually meet him. What would be the point of someone pretending to be someone or something they are not? Surely after I've met him I will know whether he is genuine or not?

[snags]

Well maybe fluffs... but after just three weeks of email chat he's 'fallen' for her? I'll stick with Psychopath...

[liquidspace]

Well Jackthehat - that wont happen to me as I really would not , let alone could not, give anything to anyone. Doesnt matter how they think they had "bought" me or won me over or emotionally manipulated me. If everything was going well and then they suddenly needed something they simply wouldn't get it from me!

[cazzz1975]

but your still willing to take the free gifts..?

[mccfluff]

its a possible snags, just a possible

i think its way to soon for presents and as for heart giving well, not even my closest would get that but hey ho

[Khandro]

"well maybe being so rich and travelling so much he doesn;t have time to meet people which is why he's going on dating sites", mccfluff, gimme a break!

[liquidspace]

Khandro - why are you nasty? is there really any need?

[emmie]

there's a trail a mile wide of lonely hearts, who have been scammed, and most said exactly what you have said, it won't happen to me, sadly it does.
As others have said why would anyone who is rich, firstly advertise that fact, most don't, certainly not to a complete stranger, unless a walter mitty, living a double life. Meet by all means if that is what you really want, but i wouldn't accept anything but a drink.

[mccfluff]

how do you know

personally i'm not convinced but you don't know for def do you

unless you're the rich italian businessman engineer living in birmingham travelling the world currently in malaysia?

[pa___ul3]

Khandro, some people don't have to go on dating sites, they just do because it's another perfectly viable way of meeting people, and why not!
Liquidspace, if his only fault so far is being a bit too needy and wanting to buy you stuff then take it as that, something that raises suspicion.
I don't see the benefit in assuming anyone trying to be nice to you is in it for some dodgy reason, but it's worth realising that it's a possibility just to keep you on guard.

[Khandro]

liquidspace; I'm not being intentionally nasty, you asked for advice, AB is a kind of fraternity, and as such, I wouldn't want to see you get hurt.

[liquidspace]

Ok I appreciate that Khandro. Pa____ul3 i like your answer, keep an open mind is what I think. I know for def I wouldn't part with anything so from that point of view its ok. I guess, in time, I will come to find out for sure one way or another and if so, I will come back and post on here my discoveries x

[EvianBaby]

Have you tried Googling him?

[boxtops]

He could turn out to be a perv, grooming you.

[ummmm]

Can you really fall for someone in 3 weeks over emails?

These emails must have been pretty intense.

And I would say the majority of wealthy men who go on dating sites do not brag about their wealth because they don't want to attract gold diggers. The ones that do probably just want sex...or are lying.

[cazzz1975]

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[rsvp]

if anything or anyone sounds too good to be true then it/they probably are. I'd be too scared to use a dating site incase I met a weirdo.

[EvianBaby]

Plenty of people meet genuine people and have happy relationships from dating sites.