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First Date. HELP!!!
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I never went on a date or ever had a boyfriend. I don't know much about guys. I met this boy on a international chatting site. He attends a prestigious college that I will soon be transferring to. He majors in Chemical engineering. VERY SMART. He is also super nice. We met each other for the first time and had lunch together (steak) at a expensive restaurant.He payed. He has a very nice face and for some reason, I trusted him and felt like I knew him for a long time.
Then he said needed to change, he was in a sweatshirt, He lived nearby. my phone was also almost dead. We went into his house, he lived with his family, but nobody was there. I felt uncomfortable. He said, I could charge my phone. I needed it charged to call my mom. We stayed there for a while. He showed me his older sister's room and his room. We were in his room, i was looking at books in his bookshelf and family pictures on the wall. We were eating ice cream when his mom came home. PANIC!
Since I was there, he introduced me to his mother. She was very nice.We went back into his room. We talked and he suddenly asked to look at my hand. He could read hands. Then he gave me a neck and shoulder massage. IT WAS HEAVEN. He said he had a massage license. We gave massages to each other, I cracked his back for him and he did my back by doing a back squeeze. My phone was charged enough, so we said goodbye to his mother and left.
He showed me around at a nearby University and afterwards went to see a movie. This was not a theater..It was a place where you have your own room, you could choose a movie to watch. (I was uncomfortable) There was just a floor couch and a screen. I was very tense...I didn't have any contact with him..but we sat next to each other on the floor couch. I could tell that during the movie he kept trying to sit closer to me. I sat as far away as possible at the edge of the SMALL floor couch. I was close to falling off. He noticed that and asked me to scoot closer. I told him to scoot to the other side of the couch. Anyways, we watched the movie and I could tell that he wanted to put his arm around me. On purpose I leaned forward so that my back would not touch the couch. He started to massage me again on my shoulders.it felt so good, but soon I asked him to stop. I asked him why he was being too nice.it was weird. He said just because he was bored. His massaging made me tired. I leaned back on the couch and found a more comfortable spot. He moved closer to me so that we were touching. He put his arm around me and massaged my arms. Then he put his arm across my collar bone and with his other hand massaged my shoulder. EEK, is this too intimate for a first date? Most of the time he carried by bag for me.
We stopped by at his house again because he forgot his card. Said bye to his mom again and left. Afterwards we had dinner (pork cutlet and mixed rice). Then it was very late and time to go home. So he took me to the subway station and helped me get on a subway home. Soon I realized that I got on the wrong subway. It took me on a different route. It was almost 11:40 pm. This was the last subway. I quickly got off and transferred to a different subway to go back the way I came. I needed to get to Guro station to get on the correct subway that would take me home. I was very nervous and scared. I missed the subway. I called him and he tried to find information for me. He advised me to call my parents, and that he was very sorry. My parents would have to drive for 1 hour to pick me up. He said I could sleep over at his house (his parents are home). But I refused! By the time I got to Guro station it was 12:00. I had called my parents, they told me to wait at the police station. Guro is dangerous at night. He called me and said he would stay with me until my parents came. He came to Guro and ran to the police station.He felt so bad for putting me on the wrong train. He apologized to my parents and bought them coffee.
Then he said needed to change, he was in a sweatshirt, He lived nearby. my phone was also almost dead. We went into his house, he lived with his family, but nobody was there. I felt uncomfortable. He said, I could charge my phone. I needed it charged to call my mom. We stayed there for a while. He showed me his older sister's room and his room. We were in his room, i was looking at books in his bookshelf and family pictures on the wall. We were eating ice cream when his mom came home. PANIC!
Since I was there, he introduced me to his mother. She was very nice.We went back into his room. We talked and he suddenly asked to look at my hand. He could read hands. Then he gave me a neck and shoulder massage. IT WAS HEAVEN. He said he had a massage license. We gave massages to each other, I cracked his back for him and he did my back by doing a back squeeze. My phone was charged enough, so we said goodbye to his mother and left.
He showed me around at a nearby University and afterwards went to see a movie. This was not a theater..It was a place where you have your own room, you could choose a movie to watch. (I was uncomfortable) There was just a floor couch and a screen. I was very tense...I didn't have any contact with him..but we sat next to each other on the floor couch. I could tell that during the movie he kept trying to sit closer to me. I sat as far away as possible at the edge of the SMALL floor couch. I was close to falling off. He noticed that and asked me to scoot closer. I told him to scoot to the other side of the couch. Anyways, we watched the movie and I could tell that he wanted to put his arm around me. On purpose I leaned forward so that my back would not touch the couch. He started to massage me again on my shoulders.it felt so good, but soon I asked him to stop. I asked him why he was being too nice.it was weird. He said just because he was bored. His massaging made me tired. I leaned back on the couch and found a more comfortable spot. He moved closer to me so that we were touching. He put his arm around me and massaged my arms. Then he put his arm across my collar bone and with his other hand massaged my shoulder. EEK, is this too intimate for a first date? Most of the time he carried by bag for me.
We stopped by at his house again because he forgot his card. Said bye to his mom again and left. Afterwards we had dinner (pork cutlet and mixed rice). Then it was very late and time to go home. So he took me to the subway station and helped me get on a subway home. Soon I realized that I got on the wrong subway. It took me on a different route. It was almost 11:40 pm. This was the last subway. I quickly got off and transferred to a different subway to go back the way I came. I needed to get to Guro station to get on the correct subway that would take me home. I was very nervous and scared. I missed the subway. I called him and he tried to find information for me. He advised me to call my parents, and that he was very sorry. My parents would have to drive for 1 hour to pick me up. He said I could sleep over at his house (his parents are home). But I refused! By the time I got to Guro station it was 12:00. I had called my parents, they told me to wait at the police station. Guro is dangerous at night. He called me and said he would stay with me until my parents came. He came to Guro and ran to the police station.He felt so bad for putting me on the wrong train. He apologized to my parents and bought them coffee.
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I THINK HE IS CUTE AND VERY NICE.
IF POSSIBLE, PLEASE GIVE TIPS! WE WILL MEET AGAIN AFTER HIS TEST, AND WILL SHOW ME AROUND HIS COLLEGE. HE PROMISED. :) HE ALSO SAID THAT HE WILL BE MY BEST FRIEND.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
PLEASE SHARE YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINIONS!
WAS THIS TOO INTIMATE FOR A FIRST DATE?
WAS I BEING TOO EASY?
DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME OR IS PLAYING A GAME?
I THINK I WAS BEING TO EASY, HOW CAN I SHOW HIM THAT IM NOT? IS IT TOO LATE? PLEASE HELP!!
PLEASE SHARE WHAT YOU THINK, YOUR PERSONAL COMMENTS AND YOUR OPINIONS ABOUT MY EXPERIENCE.
IF POSSIBLE, PLEASE GIVE TIPS! WE WILL MEET AGAIN AFTER HIS TEST, AND WILL SHOW ME AROUND HIS COLLEGE. HE PROMISED. :) HE ALSO SAID THAT HE WILL BE MY BEST FRIEND.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
PLEASE SHARE YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINIONS!
WAS THIS TOO INTIMATE FOR A FIRST DATE?
WAS I BEING TOO EASY?
DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME OR IS PLAYING A GAME?
I THINK I WAS BEING TO EASY, HOW CAN I SHOW HIM THAT IM NOT? IS IT TOO LATE? PLEASE HELP!!
PLEASE SHARE WHAT YOU THINK, YOUR PERSONAL COMMENTS AND YOUR OPINIONS ABOUT MY EXPERIENCE.
to factor30 and sandyRoe:
(not enough space) my parents dropped him off nearby his home. My dad was upset that i stayed out so late, and my mom was worried for me. So was my friend. Anyways, he felt so sorry. we said goodbye and on the way home i talked with my mom. She thought he was alright, polite, smart, etc. She didn't mind me being friends with him. We got home at about 3:00 in the morning. oops, hehe sorry Mom and Dad! This the day before yesterday. Anyways we agreed to meet again 2 weeks later after his test is over. Then he will give me a tour of his school(the same one that I will soon be transferring to.) University of Korea. He said he will be my best friend (i dont know anyone at the new school). I think he is very kind hearted. It was the first time we met, and I feel like we are very close, and that I trust him too much. (maybe i was being easy?) what do you think?
(not enough space) my parents dropped him off nearby his home. My dad was upset that i stayed out so late, and my mom was worried for me. So was my friend. Anyways, he felt so sorry. we said goodbye and on the way home i talked with my mom. She thought he was alright, polite, smart, etc. She didn't mind me being friends with him. We got home at about 3:00 in the morning. oops, hehe sorry Mom and Dad! This the day before yesterday. Anyways we agreed to meet again 2 weeks later after his test is over. Then he will give me a tour of his school(the same one that I will soon be transferring to.) University of Korea. He said he will be my best friend (i dont know anyone at the new school). I think he is very kind hearted. It was the first time we met, and I feel like we are very close, and that I trust him too much. (maybe i was being easy?) what do you think?
Most first dates do not last for 15 hours. You managed to fit in lunch, his home - hand reading - back massage. (What is cracking his back?) Showed round a nearby university - how come - is it his uni? Went to movie. More massage. Back to house. Dinner. Subway. Back to police sation (why did he run there?) Meets your parents. Buy them coffee. Home at 3 am.
However, assuming you are genuine and you want criticism, I would suggest in future that you have a date that is not open ended like this. Meet someone for lunch or dinner or a movie or to see round their uni etc. Not a dozen different things on a single date.
However, assuming you are genuine and you want criticism, I would suggest in future that you have a date that is not open ended like this. Meet someone for lunch or dinner or a movie or to see round their uni etc. Not a dozen different things on a single date.
It all seems very sweet and innocent to me, you'll be visiting a soda bar next and sharing a milkshake through the same straw;/
You're obviously not very old and everything seems like a big deal to you, so my advice is, anything and everything is fine if it's okay with you, just don't allow yourself to be pressurised into doing anything you don't want to, and stop worrying about what he or anyone else will think, just enjoy yourself and be yourself.
You're obviously not very old and everything seems like a big deal to you, so my advice is, anything and everything is fine if it's okay with you, just don't allow yourself to be pressurised into doing anything you don't want to, and stop worrying about what he or anyone else will think, just enjoy yourself and be yourself.
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