I Don't Know What To Do About My Situation. Help?

[Thatawesomechick]

Ok so I really like this guy. And he likes me. But he really likes this other girl. And he told me of he didn't have her he would be all over me. Well I told him I liked him and now he's confused. He has to pick between me or her. And he always does stuff with her like spend the night and crap. But the thing is she won't do anything and she is being difficult like extremely. And last night I called him crying because I was upset and he drove like 7 miles just to see me and make me feel better. And it was cute. But then he went out with the other girl. I don't know what to Do. I don't like waiting but I know he needs time but I just feel like she's winning and I'm just here do he could mess with my head. But he's not that type of guy. I don't know how I can get him to choose me over her. Help?!

[maggiebee]

Do you by any chance live in the USA? Not that it matters, but just wondered.

[humbersloop]

omg! welcome to AB awesome, dump him

[ummmm]

How old are you?

[Baldric]

Well yes, but no but, I think you should play hard to get for a while, and see if he shows more interest then!

[lcg]

why are you chasing someone who spends the night with other women. and if it's him telling you they don't do anything.....well. you really are a sucker.

[grasscarp]

You like this guy. He likes you and he also likes someone else. Why should he choose. He has you both. I think you have to see him when he wants to see you and if the current situation doesnt suit you, drop him and go out with someone else. I suspect you are quite young and you should maybe not be thinking of settling down just yet, but rather mix with a lot of friends until you and someone you meet are ready for an exclusive relationship.

[Thatawesomechick]

Guys I'm 17 I'm not young

[Sqad]

\\\\ And he always does stuff with her like spend the night and crap\\\

the last bit would worry me a little........

[ummmm]

Lol...that is very young.

[smurfchops]

If you really are That Awesome Chick you will meet someone else no problem ....

[humbersloop]

lol squad

[NOX]

The simple thing is you can't get him to choose you over her. At the moment his interest lies in her, if and when that wanes you might be in with a chance or not. Either way try not to get upset, needy or clingy about it as that's super unattractive in anyone. Instead turn your focus away from him, do things, go out, chill out and when you do encounter him be cheerful, happy and fun to be with not a crying, bawling, problem. From what you say he's nice but hasn't really encouraged your attention towards him, so keep it cool and chilled out is your only option without looking like a bunny boiled.

[Eve]

Sounds like you could be his fall back to make him feel better when he is having a tough time with the other girl, not a great situation for your self confidence and respect.

It's hard but get yourself out and about with friends, make new friends, get involved in other stuff and find people who don't make you feel like crap and maybe a nice guy who makes you his priority.

He may come running at some point, he may not, but if you are enjoying your life then it hopefully won't be such a massive issue.

[lcg]

errr.....17 is very young. and inexperienced with matters of the opposite sex. that shows in your post.....you really have to ask the question? he's using you and keeping you as a potential bit on the side if his other thing doesn't go anywhere. go and find a bloke who will treat you with a bit of respect.

[smurfchops]

If you are 17, he is probably 17 as well, which is about as mature as a 12 year old in a male ...

[Thatawesomechick]

He treats me with respect. I really like him. He's nice and sweet and it seems the only thin the other girl has going for her is that she look likes she's 12... Whic apparently makes her adorable. But he calls me beautiful and is always there for me no matter what.

[Thatawesomechick]

And he's 18

[grasscarp]

Awesome, we have all been 17. It is old enough I agree, but also early days in the great scheme of things. If I had settled down with the guy I adored at 17 I would not be happy now. He left me for another at 17 - thank goodness. We just feel you are not getting the best out of this relationship. If you enjoy the times you see him ok. If the fact he is seeing someone else is getting to you, then you have to look elsewhere. Harsh but life is harsh at times. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

[MASS1961]

He's always there for you.......................unless he's with her!!

Get rid and find a decent guy.