Text Or No Text?

[EvianBaby]

Me AGAIN!

So, I had (another) first date on Tuesday. Went for a drink with a guy I'd been chatting to for a week or so. Got on really well and had a good laugh. When we left he said he'd like to meet up again and then we texted a bit later on. Said I seemed really lovely blah blah and would really like to see me again. I replied saying yeah me too, blah blah and that I was heading to bed. Not heard anything from him since then.

I do realise that was only the day before yesterday but frankly he was a total hotty and we had loads in common so I'm an eager beaver. But I don't want to be too eager do I.

So, should I wait and see if he gets in touch with me or do you reckon I should make the next move and if so, when?

It's at this point I feel I should remind you that I am in fact 29 years old and not 13 as this question most likely portrays me to be but I've kept this one to myself from friends & family cos I'm tired of having to tell them it's going nowhere again and again so I have to ask you lot. :)

[curlyperm11]

*meant to say.....in my opinion AND in my vast experience

[ladybirder]

So come on then .................

To Text, or not to Text, that was the Question.

So did you, or not? We need to be told.

[society]

Listen to Sqad. He knows the mind of a player :)

If this guy is interested he'll be thinking about you and surely after a day passes he's want to make contact. True many things could have detained him from contacting you, but let him do the chasing not you.

[EvianBaby]

Well, I text him. He replied saying sorry he hadn't got in touch the day before but he left his phone at work. We had a few more texts back and forth and then.......nothing. He went quiet.

So Sqad, it seems you were right. I'll take heed next time.

Sigh.

[murraymints]

Aww...baby...sorry...whatever you do DON'T text again....he may be testing for clinginess....ESPECIALLY if you have had a glass or two ! Be cool.....we luvs ya !xx

[Smowball]

His loss EB !
It was a tricky one - I've beein the same situation before and actually txting made me feel worse. Once you've sent it you just wait and wait for a reply dont you. Anyway, you never know - he may still get back in touch over the weekend? x

[anneasquith]

evi....... onwards and upwards . dont let this one date put you off, good luck

[EvianBaby]

God no, I won't be texting him again. I've got no bunnies to boil.

[Sqad]

My love......the problem is that most of your replies comes from females and they tend to be romantics rather than realists. Looking at a "date" from a man's point of view is quite different.

Sorry that i was right...........but nothing lost.

Feel free to consult me at any time particularly on psycho-sexual matters ;-)

[grasscarp]

Damn it I saw this thread too late. Would have said on no account text. Men enjoy the chase and don't take their fun away. There was a young girl I used to work with who was never doing very well with boyfriends. I said to her one day stop contacting them first. She came up to me a couple of weeks later with a look of wonderment and said - you were right. They all get in touch now!

[Bbbananas]

Pmsl at my sqadlet.
He is the Man in the Know..... He still has it, apparently.

[EvianBaby]

I'm sorry I ever doubted you Sqad. I'll do an FAO just to you next time. Not that there'll be a next time because boys are stupid and smelly.

[Purple_Popple]

Sorry Evian..I was keeping everything crossed for you. :(

[ummmm]

I asked my OH this Q and he said text (obviously not now) not all men enjoy the chase.

People are different.

[EvianBaby]

I don't expect he's gone off me just because I sent him a text two days after we met.

He just wasn't into me in the first place.

[sara3]

sorry, haven't read the whole thread.. was he from a dating site? it's the curse of the dating site.. always thinking there are better options out there :o/

[magsmay]

I wouldn't text at all -if he's interested he will text you - do you really think he's out there hovering over the phone wondering should I shouldn't I? Wait until he texts you and then say you will have to check your diary -nothing worse than seeming desperate -male of female - men are attracted to the chase Evian -they are hard-wired to do that - desperation will put them off -totally -or give the wrong impression and attract the wrong sort of guy.

[EvianBaby]

He was Sara. Just frustrating that he wasted his own time by telling me he wanted to see me again a couple of times (with genuinely no prompting from me). If he just hadn't said anything I'd have got the hint.

[sara3]

it's a bit of a game.. he must have liked you but he was keeping his options open. it's a bit of a sweetie shop syndrome. you might have made a perfect couple, but he was drawn back by other "potentials". he may or may not get over that attitude.

I know I sound cynical. I'm way older than you and have used dating sites for way too long!

[EvianBaby]

It might be cynical but I agree with you.