Text Or No Text?

[EvianBaby]

Me AGAIN!

So, I had (another) first date on Tuesday. Went for a drink with a guy I'd been chatting to for a week or so. Got on really well and had a good laugh. When we left he said he'd like to meet up again and then we texted a bit later on. Said I seemed really lovely blah blah and would really like to see me again. I replied saying yeah me too, blah blah and that I was heading to bed. Not heard anything from him since then.

I do realise that was only the day before yesterday but frankly he was a total hotty and we had loads in common so I'm an eager beaver. But I don't want to be too eager do I.

So, should I wait and see if he gets in touch with me or do you reckon I should make the next move and if so, when?

It's at this point I feel I should remind you that I am in fact 29 years old and not 13 as this question most likely portrays me to be but I've kept this one to myself from friends & family cos I'm tired of having to tell them it's going nowhere again and again so I have to ask you lot. :)

[sara3]

pah.. no worries. stay in the game.. you never know x

[Sqad]

Evian...you are being silly now.

sqad's first rule of infidelity or dating is "tell the bird whatever she wants to hear."

Do you really expect a bloke to "blow it" by saying "I don't want to see you again."

All is not lost in this case...although the prognosis is poor.

[EvianBaby]

You're right again Sqad. Got to keep his options open hasn't he.

Think I'll go and take 2 ibuprofen and have a lie down.

[sara3]

kind of depends whether she's looking for a leg-over, or a relationship, Sqad.

[magsmay]

Evian -take heed of us oldies - I don't care if its 2013 or 1913 -men are men - if they can't put an effort into persuading you on a date then they are not worth going on a date - ! - have never ever asked a man on a date and wouldn't dream of it -when I was younger and before Mr. Mags of course -he had to chase me for weeks before I would go out on a date -despite him being a total sex god biker who -yes -road raced at club level and owned his own business -he had women coming up to him and asking him out in pubs -and one even put a note through his door (this was 25 years ago before texts thank god - Get off those daft dating(sex) sites and go get a real man in the real world ;-)

[EvianBaby]

I didn't ask him out Mags. He asked me out on the first date and I didn't mention going out again at all yesterday. in 2013 the real world of dating is the internet.

[ummmm]

Don't listen to the oldies...times have changed ;-)

[EvianBaby]

;)

Also Mags, they might be 'sex' sites to some people. But not for me.

[Sqad]

magsmay

\\\\Get off those daft dating(sex) sites and go get a real man in the real world ;-) \\\

Not so easy....all the "real men" as you put it, have been taken and all that that is left are the "odd bods" and "grungies"

Now, thanks to the wives completely mishandling their marriage, then "real men" may occasionally become available.

You see on AB the stock reply of our ABer women following a post on infidelity....." drop the b@stard, you are too good for him" when so often, it is the other way round...she is not "good enough" to keep him...for whatever reason, but basically sexual.

So there your are, you've dropped the b@stasrd and where does that leave you?//Back to the "odd bods" and the "grungies" or the dating sites where one is likely to meet the unfaithful husband.

Isn't often a case of ....."better the devil popup know?"

[Sqad]

LOl..sorry.."devil you know"

[horseshoes]

Just wondering Evian, if he text you today or tomorrow to ask you out, would you now still go? Good luck whatever happens. X

[ummmm]

Don't be so offensive Sqad.

[EvianBaby]

"all that that is left are the "odd bods" and "grungies"

And the desperados who pawn ourselves off to meet them ;)

[EvianBaby]

Probably Horsehsoes, but I don't expect that will happen.

Right, I'm bored of my own self pity so I'll consider this one done and dusted. Carry on amongst yourselves if you like :)

[mrs_overall]

Evian, you did the right thing.
He may be in touch again, you'll just have to wait and see.
In the meantime, don't you dare sit at home knitting or whatever - get back out there!

[sara3]

Evian, he still might contact you once he's checked out the competition. the ball will be in your court then..

[magsmay]

Ummmm said //Don't be so offensive Sqad.//
LOL! bit rich coming from you -welcome back by the way lol!

[magsmay]

Squad -totally agree with you - we have friends in their 50's who have split up and are on dating sites full of men looking for a sh+g and desperate woman looking for love -not a good mix.

[ummmm]

Thank you.

[magsmay]

Men are men and always will be -women are becoming too aggressive in their courting rituals (go on laugh I couldn't think of a better word) If I were a man I would be totally turned off by some desperate spinster constantly contacting me -like I said -if a man finds you sexy and thinks he might get something he will pester YOU