Shouldn't He Know Whether He Loves Me Or Not

[Nay37]

My BF and I have been together nearly 5 years and he still doesn't know whether he loves me or not. He has not been in a long term relationship before and says hes never been in love. Shouldn't he know whether he is in love or not after all this time together? He has difficulty showing emotions and he admits that and says the reason was because his mum n dad divorced when he was 8yrs old and all he remembers is their shouting at each other.

[andrew1707]

If he doesn't know after 5 years, when will he know?

Tell him to make his mind up now!

[Sqad]

I think that your BF's emotions to you are perfectly normal.

Men often tell women that they love the, because that is what women want to hear.

I think that he is very normal.

[pusskin]

Does he tell you how much you mean to him?
5 yrs is an awfull long time to wait to feel assured if he loves you or not.

[craft1948]

I couldn't care less if a bloke never told me that he loved me, as long as he showed me that he loved me...........

[mazie]

Spot on craft x

[viv38]

He's been with you for five years, doesn't that speak volumes ? He can't help it if he finds it hard to show his emotions.

[Svejk]

I bet he said it to that American girl he 'kissed' in Prague.

[Sqad]

Come on Nay....craft1948 for Best Answer.

[Ken4155]

Surely if you've been together for 5 years, then he must think a great deal about you. And, if your relationship is absolutely solid, does it really matter whether or not he professes his love for you.

[Sqad]

Come on Nay....Ken4155 for Best Answer.

[craft1948]

lol sqad the first Mr Craft was always telling me how much he loved me, the problem was he was telling loads of other women as well...........

[Baldric]

//says hes never been in love.
Shouldn't he know whether he is in love or not after all this time together?//

According to that ^^^ he's never been in love, looks like he does know!

[malcop]

After 5 years! Of course he should know, all this nonsense about men can't express themselves! Bet he knows how much he loves his favorite football team dosent he?

[Sqad]

crafty.....LOL....he sounds normal too.

[Old_Geezer]

It's not really a binary state is it. I think most assume they know what they mean by it whilst others agonise for ever trying to work out how one tells. If this milestone is that important to you then don't ask whether he loves you, ask what he would feel if you were not there any more, or how he would feel if you were ill or in trouble. Then draw your own conclusion even if he can't be sure.

[pusskin]

Agree with all the above. If he shows that he cares, theres nothing to worry about. Enjoy your courtship.

[Robinia]

This must be the BF who's several yrs younger than you/doesn't want children (you do)/you suspected of cheating? To be honest even after all this time I doubt if you're ever going to get everything you want from this relationship.

[redman41]

All is not lost Nay37 !
If you notice a bulge in his pants, he is either pleased to see you or he has had a Pay-rise.......

[ck1]

You need to think about what it means to be in love and then decide if he fits the criteria, it might be that he just doesn't know what he should feel if he is in love. He's obviously committed and a pretty decent bloke if you're still together. My wife tells the dog she loves her, it's just words at the end of the day

[puddle-duck]

As long as his actions show he loves you I wouldn't worry too much. Though it is nice to be told it every now and again.