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Hurt And Confused.
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I'd been chatting with a guy on a dating website and after about a week he gave me his number so we started texting. He'd text me just about everyday and then he asked me on a Date. We got on great, he was very tactile but I wasn't put off(liked him). He told me he liked me and I believed him. We arranged a second date but the day of the date he cancelled saying he had gotten bad news and wouldn't be much company. He asked to reschedule which we did for the following week inbetween times we carried on texting - even for 8 hours one night. Anyway the day of the second date he text to say he was in hospital (nothing serious so he says). I was ready to give up so text him to say I thought fate was trying to tell us something and that if he wasn't interested in me I wish he'd just have said instead of wasting my time and his! He replied saying he was interested but now can't pursue dating for the immediate future because his health comes first and says he's had some bad stuff happen over the winter and when it comes to his health he won't be dating for a long time although says he wants to stay in touch. I'm not expecting to hear from him again. I don't get it though. So confused. I noticed he has deactivated his account from the dating site but why chat to someone for 6 weeks, 8 hours a night, organise a second date if you're not interested??!!
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It depresses me to read stuff like this. Believe it or not there are genuine, honest people out there, but on both sides of the gender divide there are also a lot of bellends and they tend to create a bad name for everyone else.
I tried a dating site once and gave up after a few months. On two occasions an agreement to meet was followed by ‘Oh, by the way, I should mention I’m a size 14, not 10 – the profile is a bit old’ and a third resulted in some other ‘I forgot to mention…’ codicil. These were only relevant in that they had been deliberately held back or misrepresented, and it was that fundamental dishonesty that persuaded me to give the whole thing up.
And I suspect that’s the point. All it takes is a couple of instances of BS and you jump to the (possibly wrong) conclusion that the bullmeisters represent the vast majority. Away from dating sites, at least, that probably isn’t the case, but it only takes one to cause disillusionment.
Keep looking – just try to look in the right places (and if you find the right place let me know, because it’s eluded me so far).
I tried a dating site once and gave up after a few months. On two occasions an agreement to meet was followed by ‘Oh, by the way, I should mention I’m a size 14, not 10 – the profile is a bit old’ and a third resulted in some other ‘I forgot to mention…’ codicil. These were only relevant in that they had been deliberately held back or misrepresented, and it was that fundamental dishonesty that persuaded me to give the whole thing up.
And I suspect that’s the point. All it takes is a couple of instances of BS and you jump to the (possibly wrong) conclusion that the bullmeisters represent the vast majority. Away from dating sites, at least, that probably isn’t the case, but it only takes one to cause disillusionment.
Keep looking – just try to look in the right places (and if you find the right place let me know, because it’s eluded me so far).
This happens a lot ! Part of life now Im afraid, men love playing they do this to keep you dangling. I experienced this for weeks off a guy I work with ! He arranged 3 dates, he said he was ill on all of them, yes we text lots and lots day and night, and I got very bored. It just fizzled out, he obviously wanted no strings rumpy pumpy and was merely stringing me along as he knew he wasnt getting me into bed. Men don't want to bother these days with dates, when some woman somewhere will drop them for a few saucy texts. Yes it hurts that people can treat you this way without any regard for your feelings. It sucks.
he is definitely married and the wife probably got hold of his phone, the long texts could be easily be a night job with nothing else to do. He was hoping for bed on your first date and then you would never have seen him again.
Pal of mine met a guy on a dating site, they arranged date 2 when he text to say could he bring his toothbrush when she gave a negative reply not only did he cancel but he managed to wipe out all her contacts, don't ask me how but it happened.
Pal of mine met a guy on a dating site, they arranged date 2 when he text to say could he bring his toothbrush when she gave a negative reply not only did he cancel but he managed to wipe out all her contacts, don't ask me how but it happened.
I think his wife or partner found out what he was up to and he's had to stop his adventures on dating websites or face divorce. Or, he may be trying to make you a stringer, keeping you hanging on while he checks out others. The fact that he's deactivated his account would suggest the first explanation, and thus I think you've been lucky, though it never feels that way at the time.
When I was divorced I paid money to join an introduction agency which also had a social programme. For me it was worth every penny to know everyone I met had been vetted and checked and were thus exactly who they said they were. I had great fun and then wow! I fell in love again. That was seventeen happy fulfilling years of marriage ago!
When I was divorced I paid money to join an introduction agency which also had a social programme. For me it was worth every penny to know everyone I met had been vetted and checked and were thus exactly who they said they were. I had great fun and then wow! I fell in love again. That was seventeen happy fulfilling years of marriage ago!
