Is This A Normal Relationship Or Does He Just Want Sex?

[JinxedMayhem]

My friend is dating a guy that she met randomly on the street that out of no where came up to her and started talking to her.
He buys her loads of clothes and stuff but seems to be very controlling of her. When he is around she has to take him everywhere that she goes even when she has her friends round to spend time with her.

Me and her friends have seem to notice that he gets jealous a lot and think people are trying to take her away from him. Which might be effects of the weed and drugs that he is taking along with a load of medication for his health.

Other than that she see's him every weekend and she told me that they have sex twice every week and tells me that they ain't using protection as he stated he doesn't like them and she doesn't even take any contraception.
I feel that she is letting him do what he wants with her every weekend with her and using her for sex.
What makes me uneasy is that they did and do things that should be done in private in the same room as people.

[jno]

doesn't sound normal to me, he sounds like a controlling bully and I'd run a mile.

That would worry me a lot more than what they did in the same room as people, whatever that might be.

[Prudie]

What worries me most is she (and to some extent you) is having unprotected sex and not worrying about the consequences. This is no situation to bring a baby into the world. That's what I'd be banging on about to any girlfriend of mine.

[JinxedMayhem]

to eve1974 I am general asking for what people think as it is happening to a friend of mine and I am concerned as I just have a bad gut feeling about this guy she is dating.

[eve1974]

im just jealous at the "twice a week"bit!

[scorpiojo]

Why is she with him?

[eve1974]

cos they do "it" twice a week obv!

[scorpiojo]

:-)

[JinxedMayhem]

well she tells me that cares and in love with him which is doubt is true. She was a virgin before they met and he basically finger raped her without consent before dating but went on to dating him anyway.
I feel he is manipulating her and filling her head so that she wouldn't believe the people that truly care and worried.

[pastafreak]

How old is she?
...and him?

[JinxedMayhem]

she's 27 and he's 31.
he even told her that he hasn't had a girlfriend or been in a relationship for 10 years.
she is very gullible and naïve. Quick to believe things.

[JinxedMayhem]

you can believe what you want but things like this happen and it is happening to someone I care about a hell of a lot. Just wanted to see what people think about their 'relationship' if I should call it that to be honest.

[eve1974]

//My friend is dating a guy that she met randomly on the street that out of no where came up to her and started talking to her.//. Not illegal to chat to random strangers and even *shock, horror* like them and date them.

[eve1974]

//When he is around she has to take him everywhere that she goes even when she has her friends round to spend time with her. //. does she pop him in her handbag?

[JinxedMayhem]

she was alone in a park. I just think it's weird that a guy can approach woman that is alone and basically chat her up.
bare in mind she lives in a hot spot for human trafficking.

[eve1974]

//Other than that she see's him every weekend and she told me that they have sex twice every week//. as do lots of people when dating. Weekends for folk that work are often the only spare time to see each other

[pastafreak]

Probably not eve...it's just the rest of this "relationship " that's not very nice