I did it!!

[paulakea]

Hi all
Thanks for all your advice re my situation with my bf!
I left him permanently last tuesday night!
Back at mums, where i belong, getting my own car and having a girls night out on saturday that i havent had for 2 years.
I am so relieved, im still speaking to the ex everyday, i care for him but all he keeps saying is 'i love you, cant you still go out with me but live at your mums'!!
Its hard but we will get ther in the end.
I am so happy, thank you everyone for all your kind words
xx

[PinkFizz]

Yaaaayyyyyy!!!!!!!

You go girl!!

Now just stop speaking to him on the damn fone! lol

xx

[paulakea]

Easier said than done! I wanna be there for him!!
At least im out :-)

xx

[Miss Inquiry]

Have a fantastic time on Saturday night.....
I'm not sure of your past history with this guy, but if you are happier now, then good for you. It's better to be alone and happy than together and miserable. x

[jno]

no, you don't want to be there for him. You are not responsible for him, he is. You have taken responsibility for yourself, which is good; but let him sort himself out. Don't let yourself be manipulated.

[PinkFizz]

What do you mean you want to be there for him??

Have a read back at some of your old post about his behaviour.

[paulakea]

Yeah i know pink but i cant stop caring for him despite his temper! its not an easy one, i cant just never talk to him again as we have a big past and i do care...im silly like that!!

[PinkFizz]

I know,but talking every day if you have split up is way too much,and before you know it you will be back together!!

Try cutting down the amount of times you speak on phone gradually - pleeeasssseeee??

[paulakea]

I am trying and i will.... :-)

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i told you so :)

[serendipity1]

that is such good news !! x

[caz247]

well done you just stick to your guns
why do you have to speak to him everyday
please listen to us paula loads of us have
been there myself included and i know how
hard it is. you say that you have a big past
with him and thats the way forward by leaving
him in your past.
pat yourself on the back for getting this far
take care

caz x

[raysparx1]

Hi paula,

I am glad for you that you have left him,keep in your head the abuse you had,put the good times to the back of your mind,never return to an abusive partner, good luck, Ray xxx

[Suzyboo]

Well done for making the break. Hope the future brings all you deserve

[sam100]

Well done!!!! Keep it up and you'll be fine!!x

[druiaghtagh]

Well done my lovely, dont give in to these entreaties from him, remeber how you recently posted, have a great night Saturday and maybe soon you will meet a kind and caring man who will treat you in the decent way you deserve

[suzi-q]

Stick to your guns girl. Dont let him make you feel guilty or responsible. ENJOY your freedom - have a great time with your girlfriends xxx