what the hell is going on?

[ConfusedMum]

argh i'm so confused.this is one of several posts i'm gonna make - cause i need some help haha.

long story short - i was cheating on my boyfriend for 2-3weeks. the lad i was cheating with i'd see each day for 6 hours at the most, we only had sex 3 times - we didn't 'make out' the entire time we was together, we didn't go out on any dates - i suppose there was one maybe date but i dunno? we just talked and had a flirt and a laugh etc. didn't sit holding hands all night didn't sit cuddling all night and really the only kiss we did have when we was out was before i went home, my boyfriend says i had a relationship, an affair with the bloke - did i? i don't see that as being an affair or a relationship - i see it as a friendship and i just slept with him, the lad i cheated with always said he didn't wanna gf/relationship but said he did like me 'just a bit' whilst having a laugh about it, and of course i liked him. what do you make of that? my bf is adamant i had 'some kind of relationship' with him. but i say it was a friendship.

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[boro1986]

What are you for real you got nailed by another bloke you are nothing but a s*** you show no remorse. I cannot believe your BF is still with you

[ummmm1]

I dont have sex with my friends

[Llamatron]

I'm with boro on this one.

[raysparx1]

You sound like a right old slapper, I suppose a blow job isn't having sex either, get real you silly old strumpet !!!

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i am glad to see that other people think like me too. I thought i was the only one on here with any morals left. Well said lads...

[ummmm1]

Ive got morals Mr Ben

[missjef]

It may not class as a relationship what you and the other lad did, but its downright wrong!! never mind whether you didnt hold hands or anything you still slept with another man!! your lucky your bf still wants to be with you!
I dont know anyone who sleeps around with their friends. i think your screen name is right you are confused!

[chicklin]

I always find a good guideline to go by is if you are not sure if you should be doing something or not - ask yourself if you would do the same thing with your boyfriend standing next to you. In this case I'm sure you probably would have to agree the answer would be 'NO, definitely not'. Therefore, I'd agree with your boyfriend. That was sex. Its more than friendship. When this lad said he liked you 'just a bit' I think he meant 'for a bit'. Have some respect for yourself girl. Don't let lads use you.

[stokeace]

i would class this as you had an affair and if your were my partner your clothes and belongings would be out on the street and you wouldnt be far behind them.you show no respect for yourself or your partner grow up and take stock of what you want from a relationship.sorry if i sound harsh but thats the reality of the situation.............

[caz247]

wake up and smell the coffee and stop acting
like your user name.
whatever way you gloss it over who cares
you had a fling / affair with this bloke and as
boro says why is he still with you

[sako 243]

confusedmum.please be my friend.

[China Doll]

< Picks up the pitchforks, wonders who's been throwing them and if they cast the first stone too, notices a glass house >

Sorry for the sarcasim up there ^^^^^^ but I do think you were all a little harsh and rather quick to judge.

That said ConfusedMum, you had sex with someone else while married. Of course you cheated physically. Perhaps not with emotions but yes physically.

I hope you and you husband can come back from that. Good luck.