I cant find a partner

[singledad]

Im a single dad to 3 children... Im finding it very difficult to meet a woman who is interested in me and it seems to be down to that im a single parent. i really want to settle down and im ready to settle down again now - what am i doing wrong?... all my friends are women ( i assume because of my situation) they say im a great dad, good looking but i cant find anyone inteested in me!

[Trinny]

Hi singledad. As a lone parent too, I can sympathise. Its about having the time for a social life. And if you are like me, all your friends are married etc.

So I dont think you are doing anything wrong, probably just not having the time to get out and meet new people.

[LouUK]

Try some of the dating sites or if you want to be active, Salsa or Ceroc dancing

[caz247]

there is nothing wrong with being a single father, and the reason you haven't met anyone else is because you don't have the time socially or met the right person. Dating sites are good i am on a couple but there is a lot of weirdos on them both male and female so tread carefully. Believe me ,
your situation is more common than you think.

caz

ps. where do you live lol

[Emz26]

I would recommend you try a dating website (it worked for me!)
Just remember to be honest in your profile, it will save any awkwardness at a later date and as caz247 rightly points out, there are a lot of weirdo's on them so pick carefully!!
Good luck!

[singledad]

to emz 26.. thankyou, im on a couple,they ae interesting but like you said, be honest. i have done on the profile and had a few hits. what ive noticed as well is that as soon as a woman knows im a single parent, they are'nt interested.. i guess they dont want too many children. i will stilltry.

[Drisgirl]

Keep going -I was single (female)- for a good few years cos of the ages of my children.I only went out once every 2 months.Thats the mistake -go out with your mates as often as you can -Im sure your female pals will take the kids for a night and then you'll probably find you wont be single for long -maybe not permanent but it gives you the confidence !
All the best x.

[caz247]

if anyone is put off by the fact that you are a single parent
then it is their loss def not yours. why should single fathers be any dif from single mothers.
anyway you will soon have them queuing up once you are a fitness instructor lol
good luck

caz x

[Emz26]

Well any woman worth anything won't mind that you are a single dad. If a woman is genuine and really likes you for who you are then your children come as part of the package and should not make a difference.
If a woman has a problem with that, then they are obviously not right for you.

[LouUK]

Drisgirl "it gives you the confidence ! ....Im sure your female pals will take the kids for a night ", HERE HERE!
I agree, go out and have fun. You are a role model for your children. Teach them that you can be a single parent (or even just an adult), who can have fun and enjoy life.
When you are happy and active, you will attract some one who wants to be with you because you are positive. Enjoy your time with your children to give them what they need (I don't mean gifts) love and good parenting. But most of all, enjoy your own company and find time for you to relax and reflect on what you can do to make yourself happy. Then do it.
Have fun
(I have reached the other side of this) I am now living again and my daughter knows that you can be single and happy with an exciting and active life. I don't have much cash, but I budget as much as I can, so my daughter and I can have a rich and varied life. These exeriences will lead to memories, that both us can cherish. My boyfriend finds my independants a little over bearing, but he also respects it.

[mrsflowers]

After 10 years of marriage I'm going through a divorce. I have a 7 year old son who my 'husband' has never really given any love, time or attention, to cut a long story short he's been very selfish. I'm 33 years old and hope that in time I can meet someone new who will treat me and my son like we deserve to be treated. I just wanted to let you know that there's lots of people like me who will find your love for your kids and the fact that you are a great Dad very attractive and appealling. I certainly wouldn't be put off having a relationship with a great person just because they have children (it may be that the person for you is in a similar position and has children of her own). Anyway, good luck you'll probably meet Mrs Right when you least expect it!