making friends the easy way

[ultraman]

if i started to use drugs and drink and party all hours of the night will i make friends?

[stokeace]

i would say that you are desperate to impress.i should imagine if you begin to use drugs whatever people that you are associating with at the moment [if they are half decent] would avoid you like the plauge as for drinking and partying all night ok but not to excess and dont drink too much either im sure you would enjoy yourself much better with a clear head and not in a drug and drink fuelled stupor.think about it mate there quite a few corpses in the cemetary due to the drug culture im sure you wouldnt like to be joining them now would you?

[alijangra]

Alot more corpses in the cemetery due to alcohol, thats for sure.

[Tiny E. A]

Hell yeah! It's a well documented fact that relationships formed by people on drugs and alcohol are the most honest and genuine friendships of all, and not at all based on the fact you are being influenced by brain bending chemicals and that little of what you or your new junkie friend is feeling is real!

[Reverandfunk]

Yes I did lol

[happyred]

I think you can make friends in any circumstances. But i think it's sad but true that if you're wasted or high on any kind of substance, then yes you can form great friendships. Especially if you're sitting up all night rabbiting on about a load of cr*p and telling all about your life story! lol

[NORMANTHEDOG]

yep,your find plenty of friends in the cemetary

[cartman99]

No, well maybe for the evening, there is also a strong chance that you wont fit in, people who stay up all night getting "mashed" have there own set of rules and injokes, it differs from group to group. Its easy not to fit in.

You can have a laugh but meaningful friendships you wont find.

[AgentK]

yes you probably would make friends. But from the way you ask your question, i am guessing that you are not the party hard kind of person so why start something where you would have absolutely nothing in common with the friends that you might meet.
I am sure you have interests, surely it would be better to be yourself and meet friends that you have something in common with... Rather than getting off your face and pretending to be something that you are not.

Just be yourself, thats what people want.

[Mammar]

You know the answer to that, really, don't you?
Do I have to spell it out?
Going from your other posts, ultra, you're trying far too hard to make new friends. You are too anxious and people will pick up on that.
Let me ask you a question - are you a friend to yourself yet?
Until you like yourself it will be difficult for others to see what friendship you have to offer.
Chill out, mate, and be a little easier on yourself.
The friends will come in time.

[joko]

as mammar has said really, but i would also add that perhaps part of the problem is you being a bit judgemental.

you have asked many questions along these lines and all show a disdain for others for a variety of reasons.

if you show people this attitude, they will of course stay away from you.

and also most young people are not overly religious and you have mentioned going to church groups etc, so if you are coming across as a bit 'god squad' and hinting at people that you disaprove of them, then you will continue to have problems finding friends.

there is no answer we can give to your repeated question of why you can't make friends - we don;t know you and don't know why this is the case, but if it is either of the above i suggest you look inside a bit and try to be more open and accepting of people aren't your idea of perfection.

[WendyS]

No. You will just end up more miserable and isolated than you already appear to feel, and probably become ill and broke in the process.
The best way to make good friends is to find them among groups of people with whom you have something in common in terms of interests or hobbies. Could you attend an evening class for a new interest, join a gym or start playing a new sport. Look in your local library for clubs or societies which exist locally or buy a local paper and try and find out which activities are happening locally.. Perhaps you are just a little too anxious to have a social life at all costs, rather than feeling comfortable with your own company.

[redhead23]

dont be so sad , with friends like that ! get some decent mates not druggies , i think u on a wind up mate , what a low opinion u must have of urself to consider taking drugs messing up ur mind and ur bank account just to make friends !

[joynesey]

dont be so stupid you naive thing, drugs and drink will change you for the worse