Excuses

[foxydivano1]

Hi everyone!
I know its not related to
the topic, but I could do with you help!
A colleague is having a 'leaving do' at the end of this month.... but unlike normal people that will invite everyone for a few farewell drinks or a to enjoy a meal - my colleague wants to do something a little different..... which involves a whole weekend and an overnight
stay! Now, although I like her and we are friendly colleagues, as apposed to 'real friends' I really dont want to spend my free time (a whole weekend) with the people I work with -
I see them enough as it is! Plus I am off on holiday in May and am really strapped for cash.

The only thing is, she is relying on me to go - as far as females, its me, her and an older lady. AND she really wont take no as an answer. I dont want to drop it on her at the last minute, but I know she will try and convince me to go.... any ideas??
I hate lying, but I really
cant afford it and the weekends are the only time I have to do stuff for myself and my family!

[cruella]

Hi foxydivano1
Just be totally honest and tell her the truth that one, you cannot afford it and two, you do have commitments to your family as that is the only time you have to spend with them.
Just explain that families come first in your life. work second. That way you will not be telling any lies and will not feel guilty. She is leaving work anyway, so you do not have to make up stories to get out of this weekend as you will probably never see her again.

[Amber1571]

Be honest, tell her you are too strapped for cash with your holiday coming up in May, but wish her all the best. Be brave! Lets face it, she'll get over it, you are not even 'real friends' but if you go, you will be more skint. What is more important? It is not about being selfish, it is about being practical and sensible for you.

Let me know what you end up doing....!

[foxydivano1]

thank you! I will do just that! thanks again :)

[goldheart]

I would be just like you though, not wanting to upset people but my plan woud be to pretend to be all excited and stuff, talk about what your gonna do etc and that you cant wait its going to be brillant... and then the night before call and say how bad you are, or the morning you go, say you cant stop being sick / the runs... that way she will believe you because you were so looking forward to it, so couldnt possibly be faking!
If you do that, ring her but dont go overboard - if you were really throwing up you wouldnt care, you would just ring and say you were really bad and have to put the phone down...
GOOD LUCK - although hopefully you may have told her anyway by now.

[foxydivano1]

thanks Goldheart :) your comments were really helpful!