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Why are the only 'right' men for me MARRIED?
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Looking for a man that is taller than me when I wear my highest heels (so over 6ft 1"), attractive, maybe dark haired, fit who has a cool hobby, not afraid to be old fashioned and offer to pay, who knows how to book flights, hotel rooms, tables at restaurants and use online florist, not afraid of an independant, experienced, well travelled young lady. Met two of these in my lifetime, BOTH MARRIED. Why? I appreciate if a man has these qualities that they would more than likely have been snapped up, but come on?! What do I do to find my own man with these qualities?! Where do they hide?!
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I met my husband, when I moved 200 miles away from home to do work experience for my college course. He had been married previously but had been divorced for a good few years before we met.
We met at a darts match between the local pubs and realised we were living just 2 doors away from each other. Haven't been apart since.
What I'm trying to say is, you could meet your Mr Right anywhere. My husband hadn't dated since his split and was just accepting that no-one would want him because of his health problems, I looked past all that and we have been married for over 8 years.
Prehaps your looking too hard and are asking for too many qualities in a man which stops you from meeting possible mr rights?
Hope that makes sense lol
We met at a darts match between the local pubs and realised we were living just 2 doors away from each other. Haven't been apart since.
What I'm trying to say is, you could meet your Mr Right anywhere. My husband hadn't dated since his split and was just accepting that no-one would want him because of his health problems, I looked past all that and we have been married for over 8 years.
Prehaps your looking too hard and are asking for too many qualities in a man which stops you from meeting possible mr rights?
Hope that makes sense lol
probably am being too fussy but as christian troy from nip/tuck said - the moment you stop seeking perfection you might as well be dead!
did find a man in my local supermarket, dated for 8 months, but he was abusive both physically and mentally through out despite the millions of chances i gave him and now my confidence is shot.
hence why i feel i have to fussy to avoid this again!
did find a man in my local supermarket, dated for 8 months, but he was abusive both physically and mentally through out despite the millions of chances i gave him and now my confidence is shot.
hence why i feel i have to fussy to avoid this again!
really difficult, as apart from work (where one of the married men is) and the gym (where there is NO ONE) i dont really go out! only because my friends are all coupled and of course not interested in coming out to bars or restaurants when they know i will be on the prowl! i do want to "stop looking" so someone finds me, but i love dating and being in love and all the benefits that come with it, i guess i am impatient!
because that is what i am like!! i am considerate, generous, thoughtful, attentive , romantic and loving as well as having my own plentiful bank account, active social life and career, so i personally dont think it would be too much to think there is someone out there who could possibly be my equal! you cant take it unless you can give it - right?!
ok i think some are taking this out of context! i am just asking, are there any datable men out there who know how to treat a woman that arent engaged, settled, married... i have my faults but i am always working on improving them! physical perfection may not last but it helps in some instances! lets face it, no one looks at a member of the opposite sex they do not know and thinks "wow i bet they have a great personality..." lets change the word perfection to compatible then for the anal at heart!
well I gave you an idea of where to look for this 'mr right' you seek but you seemed to discard the idea until someone younger than you said they recommended same thing. It seems that you are very fixed in your ideals and perhaps thought internet dating the sort of thing that older people use.
Do you think that maybe the reason both married guys were ideal is that they were 'safe' and out of reach?
Perhaps just check out some of the online friendship / dating sites and make some friends first.
Do you think that maybe the reason both married guys were ideal is that they were 'safe' and out of reach?
Perhaps just check out some of the online friendship / dating sites and make some friends first.
Because you are looking for certain qualities, prehaps you are missing the bigger picture and Mr right keeps walking you by. I never set out to meet my husband, I never had in my mind thinking I want to meet a man with money, looks a certain way, is caring etc.. We got to know each other and just seemed to fit together.
Because you are looking for a certain look how do you know they are caring, rich etc? You won't until you get to know them, so how do you know that joe bloggs down the road who isn't exactly rich or out going isn't the one who is caring, romantic etc.? The point is you don't and until you stop looking for a certain type your probably not going to meet the one I'm afraid.
Because you are looking for a certain look how do you know they are caring, rich etc? You won't until you get to know them, so how do you know that joe bloggs down the road who isn't exactly rich or out going isn't the one who is caring, romantic etc.? The point is you don't and until you stop looking for a certain type your probably not going to meet the one I'm afraid.
wasnt dissing internet dating at all for any age, i personally would just be scared and very pessimistic about it! i think i might give it a try and set up a profile tonight and see what happens! i can always chicken out cant i? i guess i am just wondering when it gets easier? thanks for all the comments, it really does help to get things into perspective! i will not look! i will not look! I WILL NOT LOOK!
