hot and cold

[jen85]

aw y oh y do men blow hot and cold. one minute they r discussing holidays, weddings, babies and their future with you, the next they cant b bothered and u dont hear from them for hours on end and when they do speak its only to whinge at u! sorry not a generalisation, maybe its just my bf whos acting like an old lady the last few days.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, the only reason he will be acting like that is if he is not getting any sx off you. Maybe your teasing him.
He might be saying all that stuff when he is with you, just to make you relaxed, but then he will be frustrated afterwards that he has had to sit through all of it and get nothing at the end...

[tiny e.a]

Tell me about it?! I'm sitting here in mild shock having just been hung up on by my boyfriend for merely suggesting he come round later and we eat Mexican tonight!! And he's usually a very well behaved sort. I think he's having a tantrum because I've been away for the weekend, so your probably not far off with your predictions that it all revolves around what sex they're getting MrBen! Or perhaps he just really doesn't like Mexican anymore. Fooloish fool.

Ignore it completely jen, give him some time to cool off and grow up and he'll soon be back with his tail between his legs. It's not worth upsetting yourself over. (Just don't suggest Mexican as a make up meal!)

[confused79]

totally know what your on about, its annoying and fustrating, and i know personally you never know if yuor coming or going or how they really feel about you.
When i even bring it up all i get is abuse and that its nothing.
Try and talk to him about it and how it makes you feel tell him, if he cares he shoudl listen, but you never know with men.

[Richie1976]

I reckon he want to go out on the lash.

[Sasha13]

Don't hear from them for hours on end? Do you mean they don't speak to you when you're in the same room for hours on end or they don't text/call you when you're apart for hours on end.

If it's the latter, that's really not a long time and I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I would just ignore it - blokes are weird with stuff like this - it's ok to talk about commitment (sp?) as long as they're the ones doing it. If you start to mention it that's when they run IMO. I'd just try to ignore it - if he's mentioning it at all he's obviously into you, so don't worry! x

[jen85]

very annoying and frustrating i agree! he gets annoyed about silly things. im going out this weekend so we have to arrange our plans for a night that can suit me (even though he isnt going out either night this weekend so doesnt matter to him). also i always make the effort to drive to his house and asked him last night to come to me instead but he said he was too tired. when i stood my ground and asked him to make the effort for once he got all moody. today he woke me up at 9am cuz he was bored at work and asked me to go online to chat to him. i was reluctant but did what he asked and he hasn't bothered replying most of the day so i went offline. grrr so silly!

[4getmenot]

Funny its usually the women that moan because they look too much into things because blokes never open up. Male and Female are so very different, doesn�t mean one is right and one is wrong. Blokes will say she moans all the time but a woman can say well I wouldn�t moan if he�d just got on and done it. Its all about give and take, he�s probably just moaning because you think a couple of hours is a long time, and you�re probably just upset because he doesn�t see it as a big issue

[jen85]

i didnt mean just a few hours, im not that sad lol! im talking he rings in morning has a good moan and then wont hear back until 11pm at night when he goes to bed. then the next day he will b talking about getting a place and marriage and stuff! like 2 different people.

[4getmenot]

thats what blokes are. and usually it comes out when drunk :-)

[Chickens2000]

My guy is like that too. At the start it was all he talked about (getting married, having kids etc). Now we are engaged and been together for a while the subject comes up less and he seems less excited by the prospect. After asking him why this was I realised it was mostly just because he realised he was getting all that. It's almost like all the chat was to convince me and now I've agreed it's no longer nessasary. We still talk about it and I'm sure he still wants it all but it's like he's forgotten that he's excited.