Revenge???

[sosad]

Does revenge help you recover quicker? What's the worst revengue anybody has evre done? It make make us laugh! - if nothing else

[Octavius]

An eye for an eye would make the whole world blind.

[Pippa68]

I don't think it does. It may make you feel better for a short while, but soon the reason why you decided to take revenge rears it's head..almost as if you haven't dealt with the situation properly.

I was always told that the best revenge is to go on and live your life happily. Let Karma deal with the revenge side of things. I think that is true..the people who have done me wrong in my life (situations from over ten years ago) are now going through either heartache or financial problems. These people are my ex and my husbands ex ~ and it feels good!

I let time deal with it. It makes you look the better person anyway..don't make hasty decisions, you may end up looking like an idiot ;o)

[Champagne]

Ditto to the above. I'm with Pips.

[Octavius]

Revenge is always the weak pleasure of a little and narrow mind.

As Pippa has said (in a mini-roundabout way) - There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness. The bigger person is the one who walks away with their head held high.

[redcrx]

people get their comuppance in the end. Why resort to revenge? Did your husband / boyfriend seek revenge on you and the guy you had affair with?

[confused79]

Defo the best revenge is getting on with your life and not letting who ever done the dirty on you, get to you, otherwise they will know whatever they did has effected you.
You being the stronger person who comes out of this with their head held high would make that the best ever revenge, stooping to their level makes you just feel cr*p and no better than them.
I will admit when i was a kid i hated my boyfriend brother he was so aggrogant and rude to me, he came in and asked for a cup of tea without saying please, im ashamed to say i spat in his tea, going against everything i just said, but i was only 15! he never knew but i watched him drinking it and felt a bit better, im totally grown up now and wouldnt bother doing anything like that again, but funny memory to look back on!
Also he never changed still a ignorant pig!

[drama-queen]

I think its best to walk away from it and carry on with your life. By going back and plotting revenge, you're just showing that you're angry and hurt ... by acting on it, you look immature and weak.

[Pippa68]

Sorry Oct...I cannot ever aspire to be as eloquent as yourself.

I salute you!

PS: can I use you as a proof reader?

[Romeo]

Seeking revenge can get you into trouble, so is best avoided. But - and I've come across this time after time - fate seems to save me the trouble. People who have wronged me have got their just desserts. I would later hear about them. Bad things happened to them, death, loss of jobs, being robbed, financial failure, etc. Life can carry out justice for you, without you having to get yourself into trouble. Fantasise by all means, but don't actually do it. Let life do it for you.

[confused79]

That is very true Romeo, My ex husband had an affair, we split up i carried on with my life got on with things, i didnt bother with revenge just sorted myself out.
He has now ended up with no home in his name, no bank account and no work! totally opposite to what he had when he was with me, turned out to him grass wansn't greener on the other side.

Me i walk along with my head held high, have better money, nice home and good health.

I forgot to add he has been ill most of the time! ha ha best revenge ever and had nothing to do with me, just life giving him what he deserves.

[4getmenot]

nope just brings you down to their level

[sosad]

You all give such great sensible advice - thank you for calming me down and putting my head straight.

[tiny e.a]

An eye for an eye surely just makes the whole world one eyed!

[nutgoneflake]

Me too, Pippa and Champagne. I was told once that if you have bad thoughts or feel angry/churned up/murderous inside, and have no channel for these negative emotions, they stay with you and affect you personally.

I know someone who never has a good word to say about anyone - always sees the bad in everything - truly hates people for little or no reason - holds grudges etc She's ended up divorced, living alone, no friends, never goes out, and her face as she ages is becoming more and more ugly. (For want of a better word!) There is no joy in her life and her unkind nature just shows through. She was married to my uncle and treated him appallingly. She now hates him, his girlfriend, my mum (who has called round often to help get her out and about.) She's as good as crippled with arthritis and can't straighten her fingers. She's destroyed things of no great value belonging to my uncle - precious family things though, like a bible signed by the men in the family going back many generations that should have gone to her own son, but which she's burned anyway out of spite! She really proves the theory that what goes round comes round, as now noone wants to help any more. Last time I saw her I barely recognised this haggard, witchy-looking woman, and she was only just 50!

So in the end, the best thing is to get on with your own life and let things take their own natural course - bad things happen to bad people, I'm convinced!!

On a lighter note though, one revenge story my sister's friend tells:- she was walking alongside some cars at traffic lights when a bloke made some lewd comment or other to her. She walked over to the car, leant in (driver thinking he's pulled!) and smacked him in the mouth. He was so startled, he took his foot off the brake and kangarooed into the car in front. She just left him to it....! I've always liked that story - maybe sometimes a quick bit of instant revenge IS best!!??

[nutgoneflake]

I agree with everyone, not just Pip and Champers - I was too busy typing my short story! :o)

[Octavius]

tiny, the expression (courtesy of Ghandi) assumes that taking an eye for any eye would occur ad infinitum, thus eventually there would be no eyes left to take.

Sosad, the person that seeks revenge keeps wounds open which otherwise would heal and do well. Forget it, move on, hold head high and walk away - but just look out for the odd pile of dog poo on the way.

[Doc Spock]

Revenge is very satisfying. I used to live next door to a chap with 2 cars and he always left me with nowhere to park.

One night I stuck a screwdriver under the rim of one of his tyres.
Sod karma go for the direct personal approach.

[laurence2]

i was very much a revenge person ex-amount of years ago.


I put someone in a rehabilitation centre after they hit my brother and insulted him verbally about his disability, i just snapped and went berserk on this fella, i deeply regret my actions now, but i thought i was justified in doing this at the time.

It eventually dawned on me tho that by acting in a construtive {non violent} and more mature way, you could get your point across much better than taking the law into your own hands, i'm far from an angel still {i'm trying tho} but as octavius pointed out, it takes a man to walk away, you will come out of it with much more credibility as well as your body intact.

[Doc Spock]

It's all very well this walk away concept, but remember, a smack in the gob is worth a thousand words.

[Octavius]

And the karma means you end up retired, with long lonely nights, nothing to do except sit at your computer until the early hours and �excite� the world with your daily blog?