Im obsessed with a man im not living with! eecckkk

[louisaposh]

Please i know this is stupid at this age but im 28 and ive been with my partner for 2 and a half years. I met a 53 year old man and instantly fancied him and felt safe and last night i had the most wonderful night ever with him. And i have to keep stopping myself constantly texting, calling and seeing him, ive gone mad! i really am so obsessed with him, i cant stop thinking about him and ive met him only twice now. (my friends all know him and i know his family too) What do i do?

[cazzz1975]

how do you feel about your partner?

[shopaholicst]

How often do you live? Just the once isn't it? So why waste time wondering and thinking about what you should do when you should just do it ! Go for it and see what happens. Why care what anyone else would think of you either? I stopped a long long time ago. And at 28... hardly a pensioner yet are you?? Have fun! ;-)

[ChuffingHell]

Is it not rather harsh on the guy you are with to be seeing someone else behind his back. I'd be devestated if my bf did that to me.

You can't help the way you feel about Mr 53 year old and you probably should just go for it and see what happens but you can do the decent thing by way of your bf.

Even if it doesn't work out long term with this bloke, you're unlikely to feel the same about your current bf again.

[Reverandfunk]

Just think about in seven years time when u r 35 and he's getting his bus pass.

[louisaposh]

Thanks guys for your answers x
I tried to end it with my bf today and it didnt go as expected, hes back again! I told him about the last fling i had and he forgave me.Hes too kind i think!

But i agree you live once and i should take the chance.

What i wanted to know is; how do i stop thinking about this guy constantly because hes not up for a relationship just fun. I can't just turn my feelings off, i always fall for someone straight away, i want to know how to calm myself down and stop being a kind of 'clingy' person!

[beryllium]

The 53 yr old is just out for fun??? and you? 28?

He is using you.

Tell him you are going to start charging him. He only wants fun. And you want a new pair of boots? or a new dress/wardrobe???

I don't know what it is you're looking for. Do you?