How to get her back?

[paul 1]

this one is for the ladies but guys feel free to comment.

split up with my g/f about 2 monhts ago after 2 years and thought ok move on. if you love some one then let them go. started going out more often etc but began to miss her. we met up a couple of times for a drink and i made it clear i wanted her back and she did not say no but i could sense she wanted to move on.

my question is ladies how do i get her back. the question of moving on, ignore that for now as i miss her very much. please no answers with move on and forget her, time heals etc.

We have one life in this world and i want to see if i can get her back. your help and ideas please

[beryllium]

Did you leave her? or t'other way?

[ab_user]

gibe it up whiffey???? u really have way 2 much time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Cockney_si]

If she has made up her mind not to get back with you it's what you will have to respect.

Go out and live your life how it should be lived, don't avoid having a life by playing the role of the tragically broken hearted lover.

[tiny e.a]

If you got the feeling she wanted to move on I'm afraid short of kidnapping her an riding off into the sunset with her tied to the back of your horse, there's not much you can do.

You should make it clear to her that you would like to get back with her, if she has any particular problems with you, such as your commitment, or you're out too much, explain to her that you understand her worries but that you will change for her (if you will). If she'll come out with you take hr out, treat it like a first date, treat her. But remember, persistence and desperation if she makes it clear she doesn't want to be with you again, is not only unattractive but can also be scary.

[Reverandfunk]

Mate im a bloke and if it was "right" you wouldn't have fallen out in the first place. All that staying friends doesnt work for me personally, but each to their own.

My advice is forget her, move on and you'll meet that person, I know it's hard bcos ive been there but trust me it will get easier.

[jane1098]

sounds to me shes moved on. i dont think you'll be able to get her back unless she still has loving feelings for you. tell her again how you feel and ask her to make it clear how she feels about you. you could shower her with gifts and flowers but if shes not intereted that would be a waste of money.

[4getmenot]

Ok so say you cant foregt, if you really want her back dont bug her, any girl hates being smothered. Leave her be for a while she may get annoyed when she's not getting attention

[confused79]

In answer to Cockney_si he never said she wanted to move on or even hinted that.

So lets think there is a bit of hope, other wise you will always be thinking what if.

I think you need to write her a letter or email telling her how you feel and why you feel you made a mistake by splitting up and that now being apart you have realised how much you really want her.

I woudl say though that dont get your hopes up too high as she may be happy having a bit of time to herself maybe or she enojys her freedom.

Dont overally push it with her like constantly trying to call her, but as i said write to her and that way its easier to let her know your feelings than being face to face and fear of rejection.

[tiny e.a]

(he said he could sense she wanted to move on!)

[4getmenot]

yer but he said ignore the moving on bit

[confused79]

yeah i read it again and see that bit, sorry any way he did say as 4get said about ignoring the moving on bit.

[tiny e.a]

I interpreted that as ignore the question if him moving on himself for now, not ignore the question of her seeming to have moved on, as that would be quite a silly thing to ignore when attempting to get back with someone!

[sam100]

I think you need to lay it on the line to her but in person not via email. Email is the easy way out.

Tell her how you feel...be honest and ask if she would be happy to work throught whatever problem it is you had.

If she is interested dont be fooled into thinking everything is going to be back the way it was and especially not straight away.

If she wants to move on she may have her own reasons which may be noting to do with you but you then do have to put it to bed and move on...even though it may be hard.

I wish you the best of luck and hope it turns out right for you.

[eyeshade]

I think most things have been said and it would like it is time to move on. There is nothing stopping you keeping as close friends if you can do this and not get angry with each others loves!

[nannon]

maybe just leave her alone - give her a chance to miss you too...
Not easy i know...