Phone messages to ex-wife

[Libellule77]

My boyfriend left his mobile phone at mine the other day....and I know I shouldn't have done (wait for it!), but I flicked through his texts. He'd sent a message to his ex-wife who he claims to hate, saying how stunning she looked when he saw her when he went to collect his boys. Can't approach it with him, as he'll know I've been through his phone. But can't get it out of my head. Any suggestions ?

[Pippa68]

I only know what I have heard, katerich.

If you had read my post you would have seen that I typed ''If I had found out he had'' said that kind of thing he would have been out on his ear.

My husband has had to hold his tongue many times, and be civil for the sake of his daughter. I also know that their marriage had effectively ended long before she dumped him and he only wanted to carry on the marriage for the sake of his child (as he was brought up without a father).

He has had to be pleasant in the face of adversity for many years. No way does that include complimenting his ex wife's looks.

[4getmenot]

oh so you dont like her that much, go with my first idea then :-)

[kaylene]

you should ask him if he want you for you or are ya jus to wind his ex wife and to make her feel like she is missing out it sounds lik you are jus a rebound for him and i would get rid if he really want you then he will fight for you and if ya dont hear from him then it was not ment to be and if ya dont do ne thin thenyour trust for him will go coz all you will fink about is , is he still in love and is he cheating do some thing before its too late

[confused79]

God she sounds like a right dog!!!! nothing stunning about that is there, no i agree if he dont wanna lose you then he no way should be telling her she is stunning.

I went home for lunch and told my partner about this and he said he probably up to something or thinking of it, or there are defo some feelings he has for her.

just let us know how it all goes and good luck will be thinking of you.

[Libellule77]

Hey confused79... oooh that's not good. Not sure there is any point in confronting him. He's not exactly going to confess he's up to anything, is he. Think it may be easier to walk. Let the Dog have her bone(r), so to speak !

[kyra16]

leave him. theres no plausible expl. he can come up with. u obviously cant trust him. if he hasnt done anything yet; hes def. thinkin abt it. why beat urself up?! leave him; theres plenty of other guys out ther for you libellule!

[Libellule77]

Update for you all ! He came over last night, so I asked him outright. Starting with "I know it was wrong to look through your phone, BUT". Anyway, he tried to fob me off by saying that she was being treated badly by her new internet boyfriend (oh my heart bleeds...NOT!), so he was just trying to cheer her up as she is the mother of his children. I put across the point that I expect them to have an grown up and civil attitude towards each other for the sake of their children, but that he totally overstepped the mark by sending that text, after all she kicked him out and treated him like cr@p - so hardly deserves his sympathy ! He says he has no feelings for her bla bla bla, and how much he wants me..but he had no other explanation as to why he sent that. So... I lured him into a temporary false sense of security, got a rather decent sh@g, and then kicked him out ! Go Me !

[4getmenot]

:-o

[sleepyj]

why sh*g him ...your as bad as him !!

[Reverandfunk]

It aint a game lol

[sleepyj]

if i had the right hump with a man s*x would be the last thing i want to do with him

[Libellule77]

He's the one who has been playing the games. Just call this closure !

[Reverandfunk]

a sh@g is closure?

Heaven help us lol

Think i'll go and say a prayer for the lost souls....

[Champagne]

HAHAHAHAHAHA!! What an ending!!

It's nice to see a woman who takes on the same mentality as a cad male. I've only just logged into this thread this morning and as soon as I read about your predicament I knew what sort of a bloke he was already.

[Champagne]

Some guys (not many thank goodness) are players and manipulators. My ex was one, and it was the first time I had come across somebody like that. He was fantastic in the bedroom and treated me like a queen, but behind this wonderful facade was a liar, a cheat, a **** and an arrogant man.

[Champagne]

So I don't blame you for sleeping with this fella one final time. You knew you would have a good time, you knew that it was over, and you knew that it was your way of getting revenge. Plus you don't really know when you'll next get to have sex. I haven't had any for 9 months! hahahaha!

[Reverandfunk]

Champagne i thought we had agreed that you wouldnt mention me again lol

[Champagne]

So you GO GIRL! x x x

p.s. He'll definitely be calling/texting you over the next few days. Don't fall for his charms (otherwise known as bu!!sh!t)

p.p.s. I can't seem to post in one go, hence the breakdown of posts!!

[Libellule77]

Thanks for your posts Champagne - oh and you're right - the calls/texts have already started !