Broken Heart

[shady_jady]

In reply to my question a few days ago... I have told the boyfriend that I can't be with him because i don't trust him (found some more incriminating photo's from that same night with the female best friend). We have now decided to call it a day after a year and 9 months. I'm absolutely heartbroken as we were planning to spend our life together. I can't be with him because I don't believe what he says and he doesn't want to be with me because I'm constantly bringing it up and questioning him. I don't know what to do now. I never thought it would actually come to this. I'm now stuck in the office on my own (the boss is out today), and I don't know what to do with myself. I can't possibly get on with any work. Help me guys. Oh and great! A really sad song just came on the radio.

[idly_enjoys]

Call your mum. Call your friends. Listen to the sad music and get tearful. It is allowed to run to the bathroom or smoking section to have a bit of a cry. Go to the shops for biscuits. Decide what food/booze/ice cream you want for tonight and what films you will watch. Be miserable and despair at the world. Stay up late crying and drinking and call in sick to work.

Allow yourself no more than 3 days of this behaviour, then start seeing the bright side - you have now opened the door to a relationship with a man who will make you happy and who you will be able to trust 100% - that is the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Arrange fun things to do with your friends, go out and meet people, join match.com and go out on lots of dates with people who will be doing their best to impress you.

You WILL feel better soon!

[Reverandfunk]

All I can say is time.

We've all been there and thats the only thing that will make you feel better ;-)

[shady_jady]

Thanks idly, it's really nice to hear some comforting words. Have had a bit of a cry. The boyfriend phoned back to say he couldn't bear to be without me. Having a trial time apart now to see how we get on. This doesn't mean I can't make use of the alcohol and ice cream though :-)

[Reverandfunk]

Just cut off all contact, dont do the old "lets still be friends" because in my opinion when you've been that intimate with someone it doesnt work.

Just keep yourself busy

[shady_jady]

Thanks too reverand. Need a few weeks by myself to have a think about things I think. And you're right... time is the only healer. I can now concentrate on finding a new job, as I've just been made redundent too. Good times! *hint of sarcasm*

[Reverandfunk]

Shady ive had stuff happen to me that you wouldnt believe lol

I am a firm beliver in fate and everything happening for a reason, it all comes good eventually even tho it seems bad at the time

[China Doll]

I can't believe I'm going to say this but here goes....

Rev's right

(God that hurt!)

Seriously. Time will ease it all.

[Reverandfunk]

China you know you fancy me lol

[slave-plater]

his heart is probably with you ,its anopther part fof the anatomy, that isnt attached to his heart, that gets the urge, to be elsewhere...and his ego ........

[China Doll]

Not as much as you fancy me ;0P

[Reverandfunk]

Is fancying each other allowed?

[dinki]

I agree, I have had a dreadful couple of years with health, try to enjoy the sunshine and tell yourself that you deserve someone who wants to be with you alone.

After many years of searching, I found a reliable faithful man who is also me best friend - they are hard to find, but are available.

Try to have a week away somewhere if you have been made redundant, don't tell him where, it will give you time to think. Might get a bargain this time of year.

I wish you well. Hope you feel better really soon.

[China Doll]

Nah.

It's against Site Rules so you'd better pack it in actually.

[VillageVicar]

This is no consolation, however, it is better now to make this decision than be in the painful position of having to split after you have children.

It�s easy to feel your pain. And other contributors are right � get out there, chat with friends, focus on other things. If it�s part of your mindset, volunteer to help somewhere for a bit. It can be very fulfilling.

I�ll even offer you a small piece of music to help and cheer you up!

You will remain in my thoughts

Fr Bill

http://www.youtube.com/watch?vcm7xueB0buk

Over The Rainbow

[Reverandfunk]

hark at u lol

Sorry for going off tangent Shady, just keep the old mind active, play a bit of sport, join a club, you get the idea ;-)

[shady_jady]

Thanks guys.
This website really is the best for putting things into perspective. It's nice to hear comforting words as I say, and music (thanks VillageVicar). Thanks for the suggestion dinki, however I'm not in the financial position to go away anywhere (always a shame!). Need to keep my savings for if times get hard.
Thanks again.

[China Doll]

That's what all the boys say. Must be my angelic qualities.

Shady, make sure you've something nice in for tea too. I know you probably don't feel like eating but you really must.

Watch your vino intake too.

[Reverandfunk]

Or shady use the opportunity to lose weight and look fitter!

[VillageVicar]

Shady�this may sound a bit cheesy, but tonight, unplug the phone, turn off the mobile (especially!), get out your favourite pink fuzzy slippers and the ratty old dressing gown you love so much but are afraid for anyone to see you in it. Pick up a copy of �When Harry Met Sally.� Order a Chinese meal in, and prop up your feet and e s c a p e!!

maux d'amour
Fr Bill

[shady_jady]

Funny you should say that Rev! When he first went to visit this best friend of his (hussy i say!), I lost about 5 pounds in 3 days. Couldn't face eating, but there was a good outcome from it!