what's my problem?

[helster]

Hi. Lately I've really gone off sex. I love my fiance and we have a great relationship but lately I can never seem to get in the mood. I even end up making excuses. Any advice welcome? x

[banjobabe]

Ha Ha Newsdesk,

We have to becuase afterall, men are the great unwashed.

Hope this helps

BB xx

[Skreecheeboy]

They say absense makes the heart grow fonder. How about a weekend away doing something exciting, climb a hill with a few mates or something? Try something new!

[natalie_1982]

Book a "date" with your fiance, for time when you won't be interrupted and plan an evening just spending time alone together - you don't even have to have sex, but maybe have a bath together, cook a romantic meal, light some candles and listen to some music, above all concentrate on eachother. Be gentle, and don't put pressure on yourself - so what if you don't want sex at the moment? Despite the unhelpful posts above, it really is no biggie and the more you worry the more of an issue it will become X

[SRH]

I'm with you all the way Natalie! All relationships ebb and flow... and they more you worry the more it becomes a big deal. Many people get a bit low over winter (and with the summer we've had it's been pretty much a year-long winter). Take time out together - even a day out walking or getting away from the hum-drum everyday life - and perhaps do something to boost your own self esteem - a bit of pampering can help you feel like you deserve the sex life you had and CAN get back. Also worth checking out what else could be affecting your sex drive - some contraceptive pills and anti-depressants, for example, can make your sex drive plummet - no matter how attractive your partner is! Good luck, and don't give up. Getting to be close and intimate without sex is the first step to regaining that closeness with your partner... and will help you remember what you felt and loved about them when when you first met. And when the pressure's off... that's when one thing tends to lead to another ;)

[lilminxlou]

go on the anne summers website they have great tips and stuff, got me excited. maybe you need to find new and daring positions and dont get stuck in2 a routine lol