Ignore or walk away

[Jeffju]

If you knew your boyfriend was interested in someone else and you thought it was just a matter of time before he said your relationship was over, what would you do?

Ignore your gut feelings and try harder and not make it easy for him or leave the relationship yourself?

[redcrx]

Id talk to him.

if youre only working harder at a relationship to prevent him leaving for someone else then its false anyway

And why leave on the offchance that he may have feelings for someone else.

Ask him for the truth and be honest with each other

[skyep]

Hi Jeffju - Me being me I'd leave xxx

[natalie_1982]

How do you "know" that he definitely has feelings for someone else? You could end up walking out on a good thing. I agree with red, talk to him, ask him how he feels and ask him to be honest - don't accuse him, be calm and rational and honestly talk about how you feel, and what has made you feel that way in the first place. Good luck sweetie xx

[4getmenot]

talk to him thats all you can do.

[4getmenot]

only if he is cheating

[4getmenot]

it sounds to me you are a bit insecure and looking into things to much. just look before you leap. xx

[Jeffju]

Thank you for all your comments, I am insecure in relationships. I think its me that has the problem, I need to have more confidence in myself. Hard to know where to start on that!! Talking is definately the answer at the moment.

[redcrx]

good for you! get talking and find out for sure. If he is hankering after someone else then walk away with your head held high, dont stay and ignore it.

Hopefully though itll be that your insecurity has made you imagine the worst thing and youll enjoy him proving you wrong! :)

[natalie_1982]

Well done jeffju - let us know how it goes sweetie. You can always post back here whatever the outcome of the chat is x

[4getmenot]

definately dont run away if you really care for this man. xx Good luck.

[wiggal]

I always have it on my mind that my fella is gonna meet someone else or something and im waiting for him to leave me for someone else.

But at the end of the day we are looking to buy a house together and setting up joint bank accounts and so on!

I would never leave because I know what goes through my head is my own insecurities and that I am very much loved, looked after and cared for!

[Jillius]

If he likes someone else he will resent the fact that you are trying too hard to cling on to him. It will be only a matter of time before he goes off with the other person so best thing to do is dump him first ! It'll probably make him keener on you too.

[lil123]

After what I have been through in the past and know what I know now at 36 years old I would end it as I wouldn't waste my time and energy on anyone who was interested in anyone else but I am at a stage in my life where I am ok on my own if you know what I mean

[cuddleMe]

jeff,
i walked away from mine due to my gut feelings! and i was right! whats the point of trying to keep him?? he will end up cheating on you and its not worth it!!! find a better one! xxxx

[holly coffin]

try and find more evidence. you could talk to some people at his work and ask if they saw him with another woman.If that is to much, than when you think that he is about to brake up with you, dump him.that way you will be the dumper and not the dumpee.

[ftj001]

Always listen to your gut. We get those feelings for a reason!