dad seeying a woman half his age?!

[haycal2008]

We have just discovered our dad is seeying a woman half his age (he is 62 she is 31) from Kenya!

He has been there a few times alone over the last few months and has returned today for 5 weeks to spend wiv this woman. He had a gf of 16 yrs who he has told he is in love with this african beauty! She is heartbroken and cant belive whats happening, neither can we!!

Could she actually be with my dad cuz she loves him or is she just after his cash?! I mean why would she be interested in him, dads eldest daughter is older than she is! We are all just concerned about this woman who may be trying to fleece our dad, any help wouldbe appriciated x

[China Doll]

My father is married to someone younger than him too. He's 62 I think and she's 37. As long as he's happy then I've no problems with it but my sisters weren't mad keen when they first found out. That said, I'm sure she's not fleecing my dad.

I think I'd be concerned that he left a partner of 16 years for a woman he doesn't know so well but he's a grown man and will make his own decisions. Hard as that may be to accept.

[haycal2008]

ell my sister went off her head to saying it was obvious that she is after his money as she is froma poor country! i have tryed to stay positive towards him as i dont want this to spoil our relationship - he has already made it quite clear he will do what he wants, and as you say he is a grown man and entitled to do so! I do hope this works out for the best for him -thanks for replying x

[China Doll]

I hope it does too. I have to say your sister has a point and it doesn't look good but I sincerely hope she's wrong. It's best to maintain a relationship with your dad, if it all goes tits up then you don't want him feeling more alone, that won't make you feel good either. I think you're doing the right thing. Good luck to you.

[Theland]

When you see what Mucca did to Macca, it's right to be cautious, but once hes been warned, there is little else to do.

[leyenda]

Lucky him at least he will have avfew happy years .Is this like the anna nicole smith thing?Fleece you mean take his money so you lot cant get it?I expect no money left to me from any parent its theirs to do withas they want.they raised you paid clothed fed you.if he wants to spend it on thai hookers what give syou the right to treat hi like a child?did you stop seeinganyone when u were younger cos he didnt like them?i doubt it.let him enjoy himself

[haycal2008]

cheers china this is such a great site to get opinions and views of other people. I love him dearly and i will deffo be there for him when it goes wrong which i think it will,not that i have said that to him mind...im not as outspoken as my sister lol x

[leyenda]

Youre right theland after the age of 60 people should be put in homes and their money distributed amongst their offspring for double glazing and foreign holiday a plenty.

Theland for primeminister i say .

WHY NOT SHOOT FOLK AT 60 ANDJUST GIVE THEIR ASSETS TO GREEDY OFFSPRING?

[Theland]

You forgot to add DTH

[leyenda]

did it ?

[China Doll]

Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool rather than open it and have it confimed in my experience!

Joking aside, I think you're right to worry about your dad, I did mine until I met my now step mother (not that I call her than in general) and you're also right to keep your own counsel on the matter and to stay rational and reasonable.

[Petal~flower]

yeah, but you have to feel sorry for the ex girlfriend of 16 years...

So yeah, if he is happy..........what about her?

[haycal2008]

Actually theland my dad has ALWAYS had an opinion on our relationships!!

I couldnt give 2 craps about what i do or dont get from my dad once he has gone!!!i would rather have him! Its not about what i will get once he has gone, its about him being able to maintain the standard ov living he has become used to! i mean if she does "fleece" him for his money what will he live on??? There is always sum people who make useless comments and read more into something and on this thread thats you!

I love my dad dearly its not just about his money i worry he is already attached to this woman and will be heart broken if it all turns out wrong!

[Goodsoulette]

Age aside sounds like an upsetting situation all round. I would have thought if she wasnt after him for love then a visa might be the obvious thing she has her sights on.

All you can do is support him. Don;t listen to the negative stuff, its right to worry about your dad. After all you will be the ones nursing his broken heart if it all goes tits up.

[China Doll]

Erm Hay... I don't think it was Theland who said that.

[leyenda]

the uttre cheek of treating him like som e teenager and deciding who he should dsee.and notic emoney gets mentioned?im never surprised by this,its like when someone dies .the vultures swoop for their share of the spoils.well if the old guys happy let him be.if he spends all his cash then its ok he can stay with you or your sister taht he brought up and paid for everything.so hes got no worries has he?

[leyenda]

it amazes me how folk start to treat people like children ewhen they get past 60.something to look froward to eh?

[haycal2008]

sorry i mean leyenda not theland!

[terambulan]

It's hard for children when parents choose younger partners. Try and understand it is not personal to you. You're probably right about this lady seeking a better life even if it means with an older man.....she wants to survive!

Give him ur support but be prepared to take more responsibility for your own future as his new lady will demand more of his attention.

Are you old enuf to leave the nest and fend for yourself?

[Theland]

haycal2008 - I don't recall disagreeing with you, but I do share your concerns.
Mind you, if some young dolly bird came along and showed an interest in me, I would be careful that she wasn't just after my new bike.

[leyenda]

If hes happy then leave him be.Forget the money.
if he needs you later then be there.
apart from that its his life dont interfere