Is it ok to find someone else attractive?

[Kimbles20]

Hi, a friend and I have been debating. If you are with someone and you are happy with them and love them - is it still ok to have a bit of a crush on someone else? we're not talking wanting to go out with the person, just finding them attractive and fancying them a bit, maybe a little fantasising about them and enjoying spending time with them. What do you think?

[DungeonJayne]

If you don't continue to find other people attractive, then you are weird.

The current partner should be pleased that you find other people attractive, but the person you want, and choose, to be with is that partner.

[DungeonJayne]

What are you debating, noknowledge?

[Kimbles20]

random pic jogger?

[DungeonJayne]

Sorry guys. Not me.

Her ankles are fatter than mine. :-))

[Kimbles20]

Hey hey hey Legend!! I am not a slapper at all! We were just chatting about what was right and what wasnt!

I happen to agree with DungeonJayne - I was arguing that if you are in love with your partner and wouldnt want to be with anyone else then a little fantasising doesnt do any harm - it is no different from people fancying celebs.

[DungeonJayne]

Kimbles ... exactly.



So ... fancy a shag then ?


LOL

[DungeonJayne]

tries hard to understand the Kimbles / Legend exchange

[Octavius]

I am married but I also finding legend attractive and fancy him a bit, I have been known to fantasise about him a little. But I would draw the line at spending any time with him. Our one night stand was enough.

I think fancying someone and finding them attractive is human nature, but maybe you are taking it a little too far if you are meant to be in love with someone else.

[DungeonJayne]

Octavius

It is impossible to not find Legend attractive.

http://images.elfwood.com/art/r/e/renafee16/ki lt_man.jpg

[andy-hughes]

I think crushes are normal and healthy, and as anyone who reads my AB outpourings will know, I have them all the time.

A little harmless crush makes the day a little sweeter, and hurst no-one. It is only if it becomes overwhelming that it is a sign that all is not well in the world of reality, and a situation eeds to be addressed.

Otherwise, enjoy ytourself.

Now, has anyone seen Tess Daley anywhere ......

[Kimbles20]

haha thanks andy-hughes. What you said is exactly what I was trying to say but it just didnt come out right! I think it is healthy too.

[Nightfold]

Crushes are normal and everyone has them but its how far you take a crush which defines standards.