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My single friend
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He is now in his late 30s and has never had a girlfriend. He has tried dating agencies and even speed dating (and from what I know of speed dating you can't fail). He is very shy. I have tried suggesting all sorts of things to him but still he complains that he can't get a woman.
The problem is this. He says it's something he has to sort out himself - he doesn't want me to arrange a blind date, and yet he keeps moaning to me about how he can't get a girl. What should I do?
The problem is this. He says it's something he has to sort out himself - he doesn't want me to arrange a blind date, and yet he keeps moaning to me about how he can't get a girl. What should I do?
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It's quite frustrating, actually. He moans and berates to me about how he can't get a girlfriend and I want to help him, but he rejects invitations and practical help. I remember one night we were at a club and they had a 'blind date' event. He put in for it but when his name was called up he actually disappeared. Me and another mate looked for him, but he had actually left the premises. He told me later that nerves had got to him. Should I give up trying to help him? I don't like to do that.
Leave him alone to sort his life out He may just be manipulating you because he knows you care.
Try to steer him in the direction of females but after that let hyim take the initiative.
He may be interested in some sort of volunteer work, at least that will take his mind of his own problems , widen his dimensions and make him a more interesting person.
He seems to be a bit self centered.
Try to steer him in the direction of females but after that let hyim take the initiative.
He may be interested in some sort of volunteer work, at least that will take his mind of his own problems , widen his dimensions and make him a more interesting person.
He seems to be a bit self centered.
I have actually suggested a trip to Amsterdam, but he is dominated by his mother (even though he left home years ago) and is worried about what she would think (even if she's not there).
I have put him on to sites where there are single 30something women, but he calls them 'ugly housewives' (even though some of them are quite stunning). He says he wants a young hot chick that he can show off. I try to tell him to get a life partner, a soulmate, not some trophy to show off.
I have actually sometimes wondered if he is gay, but he denies it. He does show interest in women, certainly, but he can't handle them. He is sexist and self-centred.
I have put him on to sites where there are single 30something women, but he calls them 'ugly housewives' (even though some of them are quite stunning). He says he wants a young hot chick that he can show off. I try to tell him to get a life partner, a soulmate, not some trophy to show off.
I have actually sometimes wondered if he is gay, but he denies it. He does show interest in women, certainly, but he can't handle them. He is sexist and self-centred.
I think you have answered your own question Jock. He desires a knock out beauty, someone out of his league and he knows that he is not going to get someone like that, and if he did he would be scared. All the other girls are 'not good enough' for him. Leave him to it if he is so picky. I know it is hard as he is a mate but he obviously has some issues he needs to sort out himself.
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